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Hairdressermum

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11 September 2020
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Hi guys,

Im a young mum of 3 children all under 7. I seperated with my partner earlier this year. He cam to my main place of residence which is our family home (in his name) and hurt me and took my phone. Police attended and a good behaviour ppo/dvo was put in place.

A few weeks later he accessed my social media, abused people from it and posted inappropriate photos as my profile picture, some really denegrating material of me, and changed my name to slutface69. He also threatened to set me on fire and kill me. Additionally he was violent so the police conducted a welfare check because somebody rang them concerned for my wellbeing and a non contact dvo was issued and he was charged with breach of dv and other offences.

A short time later he attended my house enraged, entered the residence and strangled, bashed and sexually assualted me. I wong go into detail however my eldest daughter witnessed him holding a knife to me, him punching me in the face and my face and body very badly beaten. It lasted 12 hrs and he threatened to hurt the kids if i escaped. He had taken my phone so i couldnt get help. The attack was extremely brutal and horrific. As a result police attended and charged him with a large number of serious offences such as breach of dv, assualt, deprevation of liberty and other charges i will not describe however are very serious. He was held in custody on remand. He had also logged me out of all my social media and changed all passwords. Stalking related stuff.

6 weeks later he was succusful at getting supreme court bail. Under extremely strict conditions. Ankle bracelet etc. 500km away that sort of stuff. Within 2days he posted revenge porn, which was explicit and showed me in a sexual act and naked. He had no consent or permission. These videos and pictures were posted to his fb page and his fb story. Alot of mutual friends reported this and told me and sent screenshots of the video on his wall and fb story. He set this to public and shared on fb groups. I reported this to police and he was returned to custody however unfortunately only charged with breach of dv and returned to jail. When that matter was heard he took a plea bargain and was sentenced to community service and a goodbehaviour bond for the revenge porn he posted. This allowed him to get his supreme court bail back as he adjourned all other matters.

A few weeks later he messaged me over fb threatening to shoot me. I reported this to police. I also reported another breach which was 80 missed calls and 200 messages over a 3 day period which were threatening and sexually threatening. He did not have my permission to contact me whatsoever and this was a breach of the no contact order.
He has also sent jis family around to intimidateme and attempt to steal the children.
Im applying for full parental
Rights and resposibilities. There has also been other extremely violent incidents. He is highly trained in martial arts has undiagnosed mental issues.
Ii dontwant him in my life because at some point he will kill me. He has threatemed to cut off our daughters head. When i was bashed severly, he told the children "this is what happened when you lie to daddy" cpiu interviewed my daughter while i was j hospital fro the beating, she told them what she saw, i beleive because of this she is at risk because he is very punishing and vengeful in nature and has displayed open violence in front of the children and myself. I am concerned for thier safety if he gets access to them he will do anything to get to me. And i beleive hurting them or worse if he felt he needed to. He has in a recorded phone call told me to "take your mongrel kids and f**k off" and referred tothem as rats ln numerous occasions. And has told me if i ever f**k with him he will kill me amd the kids. It is expected he will do alot of jail time when he is sentenced as there is alot of irrefutable evidence. I am concerned if he accesses the kids he will kill them. Its imlossible to coparent and very detrimental to thier mental and lhysical well beinb. Im not here to vent, im here to give tbe gacts and receive any advise or hope to keep my kids safe please.
I should add all 4 kids are named on the no contact dvo, he has adjourned it 4 times now so it is currently a temporary protection order until it is made permanent.
 

Hairdressermum

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The reason i have posted is to get direction to make an informed decision. And perhaps learn from another persons experience. I have no idea how a history of dv will impact on the process. Ive heard sometimes an icl is bought in sometimes. Hopefully i have a check and balance in place so i can put my best foot forward. If it becomes apparent its safe for the kids to have a relationship with their dad in some capacity, id fully support one.
 

sammy01

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I wouldn't bother with court. You're better off spending your time energy and money on moving house and moving on.
UNLESS - it is worth it to do asset division. What is the combined asset pool worth? Is there a house with a mortgage?
 

Hairdressermum

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480k mortgage house valued now at 650k with 80k equity. 50k in the bank, a business, 70k in business assets for that business with no debt atttached to any of it at the date of seperation generating 80k profit, theres an offset business run at a loss which is a gym. Generating 30k a year minus running costs. 70k super est.