Hi all,
Father has shared care of child with mother - 50/50. Mother has on a number of occasions attended child's school during the fathers week and sought child out.
Previously she volunteered for a school disco and spent a week visiting the child while he was at afters school care. Today she was in his classroom giving the teacher a note as I (step mum) dropped him off to class - no notes are due this week, they are due next week when child is in mothers care. Child usually attends before school care so mother was not aware I would be there today. Mother also tells child not to tell father and step mum when mother visits him at school so we don't know how often this is actually occurring.
Is this breaking orders? Or is this something we need to try to manage the best we can? Child becomes unsettled whenever mother does this. Child is 6 and we accept that 7 days away from mum and dad is difficult at the best of times.
Any advice?
Father has shared care of child with mother - 50/50. Mother has on a number of occasions attended child's school during the fathers week and sought child out.
Previously she volunteered for a school disco and spent a week visiting the child while he was at afters school care. Today she was in his classroom giving the teacher a note as I (step mum) dropped him off to class - no notes are due this week, they are due next week when child is in mothers care. Child usually attends before school care so mother was not aware I would be there today. Mother also tells child not to tell father and step mum when mother visits him at school so we don't know how often this is actually occurring.
Is this breaking orders? Or is this something we need to try to manage the best we can? Child becomes unsettled whenever mother does this. Child is 6 and we accept that 7 days away from mum and dad is difficult at the best of times.
Any advice?