Hi All,
So I have just received this from my ex and it's about 80% of her parenting plan, even though she has now gone completely bonkers, and the items under specific issues are just outright baiting (please note I have no AVO or DVO against me as I've kept my nose clean this entire time), nonetheless.
What I do take offence at is this line;
* The mother does not have to inform the father if the child does not attend child care one day for the mother’s personal reason.
What do other members on here think about this?
Holidays
* 4 weeks’ notice to be given by mother/father for holidays in writing.
* If the father wants additional visits with the child due to his family visiting, he will need to give the mother 4 weeks’ notice so arrangements can be made with daycare.
* International travel holidays will need to be agreed upon by both parents with three months’ notice given in writing.
Special occasions
* On the child’s birthday xxxx, the father will pick up the child from xxxx at 12:00pm, the mother will pick up the child from the fathers house xxxx at 4:00pm.
* On public holidays the father is to make arrangements with the mother 2 weeks prior.
* On the father’s birthday, the child is to spend 4 hours with the father. The father will pick up the child from xxxx and the mother will pick up the child from the father’s house.
* If the father’s birthday falls on the mother’s weekend the father will give the mother 2 weeks’ notice of the 4-hour time frame that he would like the child during the day.
* On Father’s Day, the child is to spend time with the father from 10:00am until 2:00pm on such a day. The father will pick up the child from xxxx at 10:00am and the mother will collect the child from the father’s house at 2:00pm.
* On Christmas Day 2016, the child will spend time with the father from 8:00am until 12:00pm and alternate to 12:00pm to 4:00pmthe following and so forth. The mother will drop off the child to the father’s house and the father will return the child to the mother’s house.
* As both parents are not religious, no special terms have been written in for Easter Sunday.
Child’s activities
* The mother/father will ensure the child attend all extracurricular and social activities that occur when the child is in their care.
* The mother/father will need to inform the other of such events a week prior.
* Each parent is to inform the other if they will be attending special events
* The father is allowed to attend special occasions held by xxxx for parents to attend.
* The father will attend the child’s swimming lesson.
* The mother will inform the father if the swimming lesson’s time and date change.
Medical
* The mother/father is to notify the other as soon as possible of any medical emergency, serious injury or illness involving the child.
* If the child is taking prescribed medication, the parent who buys the child’s medication will provide the other parent with the medication and instructions for its use, when the child goes into the other parent’s care.
* Except in the case of an emergency, the parents agree the child will visit the xxxx.
* Medical professionals will be authorized to speak with either parent about the child’s health and welfare.
Specific issues
* The mother and the father have equal shared parental responsibility for long-term issues relating to the child.
* The mother/father will communicate about any issues relating to the child by email only.
* Communication between the mother/father will always relate only to the child and be polite and respectful always.
* The father is not allowed to be condescending to the mother or judge the mother’s parenting decisions for the child if they are not major decisions that do not need to be made together.
* The father is to respect the mother’s privacy and not allowed to ask the mother about her personal life or anything else not relating to the child.
* The father is not allowed to text or email the mother with abuse or sexual messages.
* The mother is not to be harassed by the father in anyway; this includes calls, emails/text or showing up at places she may be attending.
* The father is not allowed to physically touch the mother in anyway.
* The father is not allowed to contact the mother’s work place.
* The father is not allowed to contact xxxx on a daily base checking up whether the child is attending that day or ask about the mother.
* The father is allowed to contact the daycare center to find out about the progress of the child but not to constantly harass the child care Centre.
* The father is not allowed to go to the mother’s house for any reason unless he has been invited or it is written in the parenting plan.
* The mother does not have to inform the father if the child does not attend child care one day for the mother’s personal reason.
* Mobile communication is only allowed in emergencies.
* Neither parent will speak badly of the other to the child or where the child can hear, nor allow another person to do so.
* The father is not to abuse the mother in front of the child, call her names or yell at her.
* Neither parent will discuss any issues in dispute between the parents to the child or where the child can hear, nor allow another person to do so.
* If an agreement cannot be made concerning the child, then both parents will attend mediation.
* Neither parent will question the child about the other parent’s household, their family or friends.
* Each parent will be primarily responsible for caring for the child while in their care.
* Neither parent is to use physical discipline on the child or allow someone else to do so.
* The parenting plan is to be lodged with the Family Court as Consent orders.
* If either parent changes their contact telephone number, address or email they must notify the other in writing within 24 hours of that change.
* As both parents are not religious, religion is not to be forced onto the child.
* The father is to supply the mother with a road worthy certificate for the father’s car.
* The father is to fence the dam on the father’s property to ensure the child does not have access to the dam.
Cheers
So I have just received this from my ex and it's about 80% of her parenting plan, even though she has now gone completely bonkers, and the items under specific issues are just outright baiting (please note I have no AVO or DVO against me as I've kept my nose clean this entire time), nonetheless.
What I do take offence at is this line;
* The mother does not have to inform the father if the child does not attend child care one day for the mother’s personal reason.
What do other members on here think about this?
Holidays
* 4 weeks’ notice to be given by mother/father for holidays in writing.
* If the father wants additional visits with the child due to his family visiting, he will need to give the mother 4 weeks’ notice so arrangements can be made with daycare.
* International travel holidays will need to be agreed upon by both parents with three months’ notice given in writing.
Special occasions
* On the child’s birthday xxxx, the father will pick up the child from xxxx at 12:00pm, the mother will pick up the child from the fathers house xxxx at 4:00pm.
* On public holidays the father is to make arrangements with the mother 2 weeks prior.
* On the father’s birthday, the child is to spend 4 hours with the father. The father will pick up the child from xxxx and the mother will pick up the child from the father’s house.
* If the father’s birthday falls on the mother’s weekend the father will give the mother 2 weeks’ notice of the 4-hour time frame that he would like the child during the day.
* On Father’s Day, the child is to spend time with the father from 10:00am until 2:00pm on such a day. The father will pick up the child from xxxx at 10:00am and the mother will collect the child from the father’s house at 2:00pm.
* On Christmas Day 2016, the child will spend time with the father from 8:00am until 12:00pm and alternate to 12:00pm to 4:00pmthe following and so forth. The mother will drop off the child to the father’s house and the father will return the child to the mother’s house.
* As both parents are not religious, no special terms have been written in for Easter Sunday.
Child’s activities
* The mother/father will ensure the child attend all extracurricular and social activities that occur when the child is in their care.
* The mother/father will need to inform the other of such events a week prior.
* Each parent is to inform the other if they will be attending special events
* The father is allowed to attend special occasions held by xxxx for parents to attend.
* The father will attend the child’s swimming lesson.
* The mother will inform the father if the swimming lesson’s time and date change.
Medical
* The mother/father is to notify the other as soon as possible of any medical emergency, serious injury or illness involving the child.
* If the child is taking prescribed medication, the parent who buys the child’s medication will provide the other parent with the medication and instructions for its use, when the child goes into the other parent’s care.
* Except in the case of an emergency, the parents agree the child will visit the xxxx.
* Medical professionals will be authorized to speak with either parent about the child’s health and welfare.
Specific issues
* The mother and the father have equal shared parental responsibility for long-term issues relating to the child.
* The mother/father will communicate about any issues relating to the child by email only.
* Communication between the mother/father will always relate only to the child and be polite and respectful always.
* The father is not allowed to be condescending to the mother or judge the mother’s parenting decisions for the child if they are not major decisions that do not need to be made together.
* The father is to respect the mother’s privacy and not allowed to ask the mother about her personal life or anything else not relating to the child.
* The father is not allowed to text or email the mother with abuse or sexual messages.
* The mother is not to be harassed by the father in anyway; this includes calls, emails/text or showing up at places she may be attending.
* The father is not allowed to physically touch the mother in anyway.
* The father is not allowed to contact the mother’s work place.
* The father is not allowed to contact xxxx on a daily base checking up whether the child is attending that day or ask about the mother.
* The father is allowed to contact the daycare center to find out about the progress of the child but not to constantly harass the child care Centre.
* The father is not allowed to go to the mother’s house for any reason unless he has been invited or it is written in the parenting plan.
* The mother does not have to inform the father if the child does not attend child care one day for the mother’s personal reason.
* Mobile communication is only allowed in emergencies.
* Neither parent will speak badly of the other to the child or where the child can hear, nor allow another person to do so.
* The father is not to abuse the mother in front of the child, call her names or yell at her.
* Neither parent will discuss any issues in dispute between the parents to the child or where the child can hear, nor allow another person to do so.
* If an agreement cannot be made concerning the child, then both parents will attend mediation.
* Neither parent will question the child about the other parent’s household, their family or friends.
* Each parent will be primarily responsible for caring for the child while in their care.
* Neither parent is to use physical discipline on the child or allow someone else to do so.
* The parenting plan is to be lodged with the Family Court as Consent orders.
* If either parent changes their contact telephone number, address or email they must notify the other in writing within 24 hours of that change.
* As both parents are not religious, religion is not to be forced onto the child.
* The father is to supply the mother with a road worthy certificate for the father’s car.
* The father is to fence the dam on the father’s property to ensure the child does not have access to the dam.
Cheers