There are 3 children aged 4,2 and 2 months. The lady involved was convicted of drug driving whilst pregnant and has a 5 month licence suspension. A DVO was taken out by her in Jan 17 and she registered a breach about a month ago.The DVO does not mention access to the chidren. My visit was timed to be here when that went to court last week and was adjourned for a few weeks. I know the circumstances but it is not appropriate discussing them here. He has a solicitor acting for him.
I have now had a week of watching her in action. Prior to my arrival, my son did not have unsupervised access to see his children and any verballing that occured was due to this. The the day after my arrival, I have a message telling me that I can't have them either even though she lives with her parents. There is a cordial relationship with both sets of grandparents. After telling me that no one was having access to the children, not 24 hours later my son was offered access for about 5 hours. Since then, my son has been offered the 2 eldest children for a full 24 hour period and then a second overnight stay. I have watched her harrass my son with phone and txt calls and I have had some too. She has schooled the 4 yrold to tell her who is with Daddy and on the last occasion, as soon as they arrived at the unit, she was harrassing both my son and grandson to see if his friend was here. He was honest, he was only 4 years old and, once she knew that my son's new friend was here, she came around and grabbed the 4 yrold and tried to take the 2 yrold. Police left the 2yr old in my care overnight whilst my son was taken away for questioning and later released with no action against him. Earlier that day, a drug raid was made on his new friend's house which the mother was funnily aware of. Nothing was found but I understand the dob in a dealer can cause that reaction and I support that initiative. In this case it was spite towards the woman, just because she was my son's friend. The next morning when we went to court for the hearing of the DVO matter above, as I parked the vehicle in center road parking the mother opened the back door of my car and grabbed the 2 yr old. That's 2 cases of kidnapping your own children from an agreed time allocation in 12 hours, both running the risk of injuring the children physically whilst the mental affects will be long lasting. I will say that Police are now fully aware of what the mother has been doing. Crying wolf is an old but pertinent phrase but as she took out the DVO, the onus is on my son. The DVO does not relate to child access.
To the readers, I ask the following:
What advice can you give my son to gain the high ground with a woman, a mother that would use her own children as a tool of anger towards the father, He has started the legal process through Legal Aid which will take some time. With no parenting agreement in place (I understand she has refused mediation), there is an agreed 50%/50% care of the children. In fact he was the primary care giver. The police stated that he had every right to safely look after the children in his own house. They were not at risk and very happy.
I don't care who you are, your advice and help on the route to take to save these children from this set of circumstances is urgently needed, even going as far as suggesting that the mother is unfit to provide the guardianship that is needed.
Whilst I have a daily diary of what has happened, and so has my son and his friend, that does not help these little boys.
Please help us
#5msoleanda, Yesterday at 3:59 PM
I have now had a week of watching her in action. Prior to my arrival, my son did not have unsupervised access to see his children and any verballing that occured was due to this. The the day after my arrival, I have a message telling me that I can't have them either even though she lives with her parents. There is a cordial relationship with both sets of grandparents. After telling me that no one was having access to the children, not 24 hours later my son was offered access for about 5 hours. Since then, my son has been offered the 2 eldest children for a full 24 hour period and then a second overnight stay. I have watched her harrass my son with phone and txt calls and I have had some too. She has schooled the 4 yrold to tell her who is with Daddy and on the last occasion, as soon as they arrived at the unit, she was harrassing both my son and grandson to see if his friend was here. He was honest, he was only 4 years old and, once she knew that my son's new friend was here, she came around and grabbed the 4 yrold and tried to take the 2 yrold. Police left the 2yr old in my care overnight whilst my son was taken away for questioning and later released with no action against him. Earlier that day, a drug raid was made on his new friend's house which the mother was funnily aware of. Nothing was found but I understand the dob in a dealer can cause that reaction and I support that initiative. In this case it was spite towards the woman, just because she was my son's friend. The next morning when we went to court for the hearing of the DVO matter above, as I parked the vehicle in center road parking the mother opened the back door of my car and grabbed the 2 yr old. That's 2 cases of kidnapping your own children from an agreed time allocation in 12 hours, both running the risk of injuring the children physically whilst the mental affects will be long lasting. I will say that Police are now fully aware of what the mother has been doing. Crying wolf is an old but pertinent phrase but as she took out the DVO, the onus is on my son. The DVO does not relate to child access.
To the readers, I ask the following:
What advice can you give my son to gain the high ground with a woman, a mother that would use her own children as a tool of anger towards the father, He has started the legal process through Legal Aid which will take some time. With no parenting agreement in place (I understand she has refused mediation), there is an agreed 50%/50% care of the children. In fact he was the primary care giver. The police stated that he had every right to safely look after the children in his own house. They were not at risk and very happy.
I don't care who you are, your advice and help on the route to take to save these children from this set of circumstances is urgently needed, even going as far as suggesting that the mother is unfit to provide the guardianship that is needed.
Whilst I have a daily diary of what has happened, and so has my son and his friend, that does not help these little boys.
Please help us
#5msoleanda, Yesterday at 3:59 PM
