I am looking for some help. I'm not sure how much detail to include/what is relevant so, happy to answer any questions.
Situation is;
My partner has initiated meditation to see his now 9-year-old son. He hasn't seen him since around 3-year-old, however we have been sending gifts for 2.5 years for birthdays, Christmas etc
Mother and my partner were never in a relationship, son was conceived of a one time encounter, so no real other relationship issues to consider.
My partner wasn't notified when she was pregnant or about his son for sometime after the birth. He did see his son but ceased doing this as he was receiving harassment from the mothers family and friends (just messages and minor vandalism).
He did not do anything about the above. He wanted to have a relationship with his son, separate from the mother, which she wasn't keen on.
I have spoken with her about sending gifts (I thought it might be a good idea to be friendly with her, maybe help her feel at ease about the idea of him spending time with us) and she said it was fine as long as we mark the presents are from us. As up to know that part has been fine.
Partner told her in Jan we wanted to make arrangements to see him (I have also let her know this 3 years ago and again last year, each time she asks to meet and chat and then just wont respond) which she said she will get her lawyer to send something and get it started.
So far we have only received a letter from her lawyers threatening an IVO - We are not to communicate with her or the son, or send any further gifts. We were advised the gifts have been unsolicited and 'out of the blue' and that given this, it is confusing for the son.
She has told me before she doesn't want my partner and my children both there with the son whilst my partner builds a relationship with his son. Our children are still only quite young.
Considering the above, and his age, what can we expect?
We would like at least once a week, same day. Is hoping for an overnight unrealistic?
I would need to facilitate pick ups and drop offs due to my partners work. We also want our children to be able to spend quality time together.
My partner doesn't want her involved in their time together but happy for a mutual party or possibly her mother, if it makes his son more comfortable whilst they are reintroduced.
Situation is;
My partner has initiated meditation to see his now 9-year-old son. He hasn't seen him since around 3-year-old, however we have been sending gifts for 2.5 years for birthdays, Christmas etc
Mother and my partner were never in a relationship, son was conceived of a one time encounter, so no real other relationship issues to consider.
My partner wasn't notified when she was pregnant or about his son for sometime after the birth. He did see his son but ceased doing this as he was receiving harassment from the mothers family and friends (just messages and minor vandalism).
He did not do anything about the above. He wanted to have a relationship with his son, separate from the mother, which she wasn't keen on.
I have spoken with her about sending gifts (I thought it might be a good idea to be friendly with her, maybe help her feel at ease about the idea of him spending time with us) and she said it was fine as long as we mark the presents are from us. As up to know that part has been fine.
Partner told her in Jan we wanted to make arrangements to see him (I have also let her know this 3 years ago and again last year, each time she asks to meet and chat and then just wont respond) which she said she will get her lawyer to send something and get it started.
So far we have only received a letter from her lawyers threatening an IVO - We are not to communicate with her or the son, or send any further gifts. We were advised the gifts have been unsolicited and 'out of the blue' and that given this, it is confusing for the son.
She has told me before she doesn't want my partner and my children both there with the son whilst my partner builds a relationship with his son. Our children are still only quite young.
Considering the above, and his age, what can we expect?
We would like at least once a week, same day. Is hoping for an overnight unrealistic?
I would need to facilitate pick ups and drop offs due to my partners work. We also want our children to be able to spend quality time together.
My partner doesn't want her involved in their time together but happy for a mutual party or possibly her mother, if it makes his son more comfortable whilst they are reintroduced.