Yeah I was glancing some of your prior posts, it's heartbreaking from what I read. I have also been in a relationship with a narc, and my own legal issues now relate to that.
I glanced where you wrote your wife admitted she had BPD -- psychologists don't understand that's part of pathological narcissism -- but here's the problem, to absolutely everyone (psychologists included), 'narcissism' means NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), so I've learnt to stop using that word: because as in both our cases, 'Borderline' has a much higher chance of being understood by people, and some borderlines are also secondary psychopaths (sociopaths), which again, has more meaning to everyone than "narcissist". When you say "narcissist", people think of Trump. The only people that understand what 'pathological narcissism' actually means, are the academics, and the victims like you and me who have had to research it.
The other thing you've probably already discovered, is that nobody will understand, unless you've lived through it yourself: You merged and fused (married and loved) and built a bridge to an absence: somebody whose very existence is a duplicitous lie, who gaslighted you and would only love you if you agreed to their gaslighting. They were nice when you met them, and then you spent your entire marriage wondering where that person disappeared to - who would only reappear when you ran circles around them trying to please them. --you get the idea.
I feel sorry for you my friend.
If I may share one more thing: I've recently come to understand why "no contact" really is the solution, but it took me a very long time to understand why.
I wish you all the best.
I wish I could help with the legal stuff but I have a similar problem: All the criminal lawyers I talk to will only help me if I need defending (which I don't, I need help prosecuting)
