Bear with me.. will try to explain this in order of events and provide a little context to the restrictions/behaviors in play here.
Fiancé has an ex wife. She has him under a DVO (long story short, but she made Fiancé believe their parenting orders were official consent orders, one weekend he arrives to collect, she tells him he isn't having them. Police are called, because he didn't leave the property and wanted to wait for the police to understand what was going on, she now has a DVO for intimidation - with a couple of years left before expiry).
Consent orders now in place. Fiancé gets his children for 1 weekend every fortnight.
I have 2 children. 1 of which is a 12yr F.
They have 3 children. 1 of which is a 13yr M.
We need to drive in excess of 1.5hrs (each way) to take them to their weekend sporting commitments. Depending on draw, this could be up to a 4hour drive (each way). Ex wife would often attend sporting venues to watch her children play and situate herself within 15m of the Fiancé. The DVO has a 50m exclusion. I warn Fiancé that as she is the protected party, he is essentially breaching the DVO. He asks her to stop attending the sporting venues or we will have to pull the children from the field and leave.
Within a week, paperwork is received to relax the distance order from the DVO so she can continue to attend games.
She trawled back through 5years/90 pages worth of email correspondence between herself and Fiancé in an attempt to breach him on the 'cannot contact unless about the children' order. Out of the numerous sentences she has highlighted out of context in attempt to file for breach, we get questioned by police over 3 sentences. All charges dropped. No breach determined. She believes she has successfully breached him however. We dare not correct her as this will then encourage her to pursue another avenue/find something else.. which it seems she has...
She has sent in excess of a dozen emails to my Fiancé accusing my 12yr old and their 13yr old of incest under our roof. He forwards these to me so I can be kept up to date as the subject involves my daughter.
She calls her son at ~10pm on a Sunday night and demands my daughter to be woken up so she can question her. (Under current arrangements, my children and Fiancés children only see each other 4 times a year, for the first week of school holidays and in the event that a fathers day weekend lines up - this has only been in affect for approx 1 year. So relatively speaking, our children do not know each other THAT well).
I send an email respectfully asking her not to contact this household at inappropriate times and if she needs to communicate with my daughter, she can do so, through me, via email only.
Their children have started the ball rolling to ask to live with us for majority. She is upset with this, however seems to want to agree to the change in consent orders.
More emails arrive accusing of incest to Fiancés email address.
She makes contact again with my daughter over the phone, via her sons mobile number. I have recordings of snippets of this conversation; she sounds intoxicated. All character reference reports back that she is a functioning alcoholic.
I contact her via email asking for her to stop the false accusations or provide evidence so I can investigate and address. This is causing a great deal of anguish to myself and my daughter. She does not reply to me, but instead, replies to my Fiancé, accusing him of asking me to reply to her (as this would be a breach of the DVO).
I then contact her back via email to assure that my Fiancé did not ask me to contact her and I did so off my own accord as it involves my daughter and ask again for evidence. No reply.
The updated consent orders are sent to her for agreement in principle; I edit the existing court orders and accidentally failed to remove the court seal before sending them back for her perusal. She now is accusing that the Fiancé has illegally attempted to use the courts seal (as she doesn't know I am assisting in this department). Obviously that was not the intention. She agrees in principle, although demands them to be sworn and printed copy with a wet signature (even thought this is not required). She is also asking for the DVO to be added to the application for amended court orders (but I believe this is for her to include when she completes her half of the application form - am I wrong?). I have the paperwork printed and sent as is.
The updated consent orders arrive for her signature. On the same evening, she takes a copy of the two emails I have sent her (stupidly) from my work email address, omitting any other emails and manipulating/redacting some details and completes an online webform complaint at my place of employment. Her complaint is asking why she is receiving emails of this nature from the company. To my knowledge she is not a customer. For the record, work has advised they are supporting me as an employee, however unsure of what the formal response will be post HR investigation. My manager has suggested it may be worthwhile having my lawyer respond to the work complaint, however I am unsure of who (what kind of lawyer) to engage and what request I would make of them?
From what I have observed, she seems to be a fan of making his life (and now my life) hell. She has no regard for wasting police time and is one of the classic examples of "the system" not working as it should. She clearly will stop at nothing.
Do her accusations of my daughter constitute defamation?
Is her excessive emails on the subject matter, although not directly addressed to me, classified as harassment? Or does it classify as harassment now that she has involved my place of employment?
Can I/should I be getting some sort of protection order against her to distance her from my daughter?
How can I protect myself and my family from her (seemingly unstable) actions without jeopardizing my Fiancés ability to have his children full time? This may need to be time sensitive? I don't know...
Should I involve the police? Or obtain legal assistance?
What would you do?
(And I thought dealing with my ex husband was bad - perhaps he was in my life to teach me lessons on dealing with this one!)
Fiancé has an ex wife. She has him under a DVO (long story short, but she made Fiancé believe their parenting orders were official consent orders, one weekend he arrives to collect, she tells him he isn't having them. Police are called, because he didn't leave the property and wanted to wait for the police to understand what was going on, she now has a DVO for intimidation - with a couple of years left before expiry).
Consent orders now in place. Fiancé gets his children for 1 weekend every fortnight.
I have 2 children. 1 of which is a 12yr F.
They have 3 children. 1 of which is a 13yr M.
We need to drive in excess of 1.5hrs (each way) to take them to their weekend sporting commitments. Depending on draw, this could be up to a 4hour drive (each way). Ex wife would often attend sporting venues to watch her children play and situate herself within 15m of the Fiancé. The DVO has a 50m exclusion. I warn Fiancé that as she is the protected party, he is essentially breaching the DVO. He asks her to stop attending the sporting venues or we will have to pull the children from the field and leave.
Within a week, paperwork is received to relax the distance order from the DVO so she can continue to attend games.
She trawled back through 5years/90 pages worth of email correspondence between herself and Fiancé in an attempt to breach him on the 'cannot contact unless about the children' order. Out of the numerous sentences she has highlighted out of context in attempt to file for breach, we get questioned by police over 3 sentences. All charges dropped. No breach determined. She believes she has successfully breached him however. We dare not correct her as this will then encourage her to pursue another avenue/find something else.. which it seems she has...
She has sent in excess of a dozen emails to my Fiancé accusing my 12yr old and their 13yr old of incest under our roof. He forwards these to me so I can be kept up to date as the subject involves my daughter.
She calls her son at ~10pm on a Sunday night and demands my daughter to be woken up so she can question her. (Under current arrangements, my children and Fiancés children only see each other 4 times a year, for the first week of school holidays and in the event that a fathers day weekend lines up - this has only been in affect for approx 1 year. So relatively speaking, our children do not know each other THAT well).
I send an email respectfully asking her not to contact this household at inappropriate times and if she needs to communicate with my daughter, she can do so, through me, via email only.
Their children have started the ball rolling to ask to live with us for majority. She is upset with this, however seems to want to agree to the change in consent orders.
More emails arrive accusing of incest to Fiancés email address.
She makes contact again with my daughter over the phone, via her sons mobile number. I have recordings of snippets of this conversation; she sounds intoxicated. All character reference reports back that she is a functioning alcoholic.
I contact her via email asking for her to stop the false accusations or provide evidence so I can investigate and address. This is causing a great deal of anguish to myself and my daughter. She does not reply to me, but instead, replies to my Fiancé, accusing him of asking me to reply to her (as this would be a breach of the DVO).
I then contact her back via email to assure that my Fiancé did not ask me to contact her and I did so off my own accord as it involves my daughter and ask again for evidence. No reply.
The updated consent orders are sent to her for agreement in principle; I edit the existing court orders and accidentally failed to remove the court seal before sending them back for her perusal. She now is accusing that the Fiancé has illegally attempted to use the courts seal (as she doesn't know I am assisting in this department). Obviously that was not the intention. She agrees in principle, although demands them to be sworn and printed copy with a wet signature (even thought this is not required). She is also asking for the DVO to be added to the application for amended court orders (but I believe this is for her to include when she completes her half of the application form - am I wrong?). I have the paperwork printed and sent as is.
The updated consent orders arrive for her signature. On the same evening, she takes a copy of the two emails I have sent her (stupidly) from my work email address, omitting any other emails and manipulating/redacting some details and completes an online webform complaint at my place of employment. Her complaint is asking why she is receiving emails of this nature from the company. To my knowledge she is not a customer. For the record, work has advised they are supporting me as an employee, however unsure of what the formal response will be post HR investigation. My manager has suggested it may be worthwhile having my lawyer respond to the work complaint, however I am unsure of who (what kind of lawyer) to engage and what request I would make of them?
From what I have observed, she seems to be a fan of making his life (and now my life) hell. She has no regard for wasting police time and is one of the classic examples of "the system" not working as it should. She clearly will stop at nothing.
Do her accusations of my daughter constitute defamation?
Is her excessive emails on the subject matter, although not directly addressed to me, classified as harassment? Or does it classify as harassment now that she has involved my place of employment?
Can I/should I be getting some sort of protection order against her to distance her from my daughter?
How can I protect myself and my family from her (seemingly unstable) actions without jeopardizing my Fiancés ability to have his children full time? This may need to be time sensitive? I don't know...
Should I involve the police? Or obtain legal assistance?
What would you do?
(And I thought dealing with my ex husband was bad - perhaps he was in my life to teach me lessons on dealing with this one!)
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