Hi all and thanks in advance for any help or advice.
Currently in court proceedings with the mother of our children (15 and 13). Have had 2 hearings and a Child Inclusive Conference conducted and interim orders made which state the children live with me and visit the mother 1 day a week without the presence of the mothers partner. Basically court was initiated because of the childrens reluctance to live with their mother due to conflict in the house between the mother and her partner, plus other factors.
Children have been visiting for a few weeks now, and almost everytime they come back telling me that their mother is pressuring them about the current orders and that all they have to do is tell me that they want to see *her partner*
Comments include
"dont you love *her partner* and want to see him?"
"just tell your father that you want to see him and he will have to let you"
"dont you know how much this is all upsetting me? Its unfair on me, unfair on *her partner*.
"I dont know how much more I can continue like this"
The children have also had an older sibling (17) who still resides with the mother makes comments such as
"Mum is broke because of you, all of her money is going on lawyers.
Not sure what to do about this. Im a self rep and the mother has a lawyer.
I have no problem with them seeing their mother at all, I would just prefer that they didnt have to put up with the mothers guilt game, and pressuring them into saying things they dont want.
Should I write a letter to her lawyer requesting this kind of behaviour stop??
Do I just let it all slide?
We are just about to commence court ordered Family Therapy, should I just mention this all to the Psychologist instead?
Currently in court proceedings with the mother of our children (15 and 13). Have had 2 hearings and a Child Inclusive Conference conducted and interim orders made which state the children live with me and visit the mother 1 day a week without the presence of the mothers partner. Basically court was initiated because of the childrens reluctance to live with their mother due to conflict in the house between the mother and her partner, plus other factors.
Children have been visiting for a few weeks now, and almost everytime they come back telling me that their mother is pressuring them about the current orders and that all they have to do is tell me that they want to see *her partner*
Comments include
"dont you love *her partner* and want to see him?"
"just tell your father that you want to see him and he will have to let you"
"dont you know how much this is all upsetting me? Its unfair on me, unfair on *her partner*.
"I dont know how much more I can continue like this"
The children have also had an older sibling (17) who still resides with the mother makes comments such as
"Mum is broke because of you, all of her money is going on lawyers.
Not sure what to do about this. Im a self rep and the mother has a lawyer.
I have no problem with them seeing their mother at all, I would just prefer that they didnt have to put up with the mothers guilt game, and pressuring them into saying things they dont want.
Should I write a letter to her lawyer requesting this kind of behaviour stop??
Do I just let it all slide?
We are just about to commence court ordered Family Therapy, should I just mention this all to the Psychologist instead?