I didnt respond asap 2 chill &ponder a bit over your " easy peasy " simple solution & i remind myself that your not privvy to all the details of the case so i can excuse such a daft comment. I know this is a tin foil hat comment......but its almos t as if a coin was tossed at start of this case & no matter what, i will not be allowed to get decision ! We had counter allegations of F/V& judge made a finding to prove hers that i was physically abusive & violent.reasons contain 3 events judge recorded against me-assaulted ex when we had final seperation-we both said it was only verbal & pol. Incident report states " no physical assaults by either.i went to her dads 1 time on way back from court frustrated & said in raised voice through locked screen - talk sense into ya fuc*in daughter, then left.turns out our 6 year old was in there & got bit upset ( they would've milked it)-judges reasons rip me a new 1 coz i "knew the ex & child were living there so cant be surprised".
Its agreed fact ex & kid hadnt lived there for 10 months......& it was 12o'clock on a schoolday ! Interim intervention order she applied for 3 days after we accepted for mediation-my booking that after rebuffed my invites to post seperation counselling & ripped up draft 13 page parent plan i'd asked her to keep 4 a week & return it with additions/ommissions listed & couple of returns each we'd settle on 1.
Iio relied on 2 historic alleged assaults that she'd gone in cop shop at times & said we'd had fight & i smacked her, gave my name & left straight away.no statement, no charges-these were 5 & 7 year prior.
I finally got her to answer how she could give an affidavit alleging i was a violent nutjob that she feared 4 hers our kids & her folks physical well beings 1 month after we split & i had kept away from her , hoping shed calm down & see reason that our kid still had wish & rights to see me.swore 8 pages of crap on the 7th & randomly rang me on the 10th 2 do complete backflip & offer 2 bring mid 2 my place & she'd leave us to have 5 hrs visit.......then done same on 15th.visits cool then she straight back into mode of dic*in me around & blockin even phone contact.SHe did so for 11 days then cops serve me io .
Asked how she could explain the contradictions.........."SAPOL told me to keep things normal until courtdate?
Gather our judge believed that hors* ship coz not a word about it in reasons.even after these bogus violence concerns forced 18 months highest level supervision at contact centre-21 visits all reported & all gold star level.
Aggh now read another case where mum lost custody for way less fuc* up.
So forgive me 4 seeking answers from the ruining of my life for being born a guy by looks, coz yeah done 6 angry classes as well as no drug issue stamp from qualified counsellor they sent me 2.
Im at point now worse than when i initiated due to par.respons. stripped from me....heres the killer though......this is 3rd 4night she contravened orders & with held kid & no one cares wait til back to court next week.......as i'm SAPOL's wanted suspect of week at the ex's insistence & possible 2 years........my crime ?!finding dozens of photos of her mum who passed away near 3 years ago. So dropped on HIS doorstep with letter beggin him to sort his daughter.......perhaps it is me then but i give in