My wife and I are 3 years into a legal fight, $120K down and up for another $40K, now at final orders with 2 days of a barrister. The ex (Father) started self-representing at the last interim due to no funds (like we have any) and despite ICL indicating his cause was completely futile and lost, he will not back down. Because he is a very smart narcissist with an evidence supported history of violence (i.e. week in hospital at worst, innumerate black eyes at best), we cannot risk not having strong legal support given that we seek that the current orders are maintained as final; those orders being no contact at all with the child due to reasons I cannot go into. As our lawyer says, we are stuck in the Legal system, not the Justice system, and there is very little about it that is fair and just. Without being able to throw another dollar in the ring, and I am seeking help on if there is a way that a victim of abuse can avoid the nauseating experience of having to stand in the same room as her abuser having lies and taunts delivered to her in the guise of cross-examination at family court? This power play could well have a devastating effect on her fragile state of mind. To date she has not played the PTS line and has avoided any formal indication that her personal feelings toward her ex could in anyway taint her child's relationship with the Father, and I can attest with all honesty that she has been amazing in keeping this period of her life away from her now 14-year-old son (was 6 at the time of abuse), but in the environment indicated above, I fear she could experience such a panic attack she could end up passing out or worse. She has been the victim of this man for over a decade now and it is tearing us apart that the system does not appear to have a mechanism to protect the welfare of an individual in these circumstances. Any help appreciated.