We haven't asked for 50/50 because asking for an extra day or even extra hours results in the kids getting the force of her anger, and us getting the usual texts about what a crap dad I am because I don't want to pay extra money to her beyond CSA and because I went to Sydney and so on and so forth. I don't care about the texts but I do care about the kids getting upset. And she knows this of course.
Even when they are at our house she calls, and if they say they are having fun, she cries and say what a bad mum she must be if they like being with us more. So now they have specifically asked us not to ever tell her that the reason we want more time with them because they like to be with us - it has to come from us.
I like the idea of mediation but she will never agree, I'm afraid it will go to court which I would do if I felt we could win. That's why I'm wondering if we should just enjoy our 21 hours a week? Which as I said is more than the agreed 8 hours. Until the kids are older and stronger?
Thanks again for all the help.
Even when they are at our house she calls, and if they say they are having fun, she cries and say what a bad mum she must be if they like being with us more. So now they have specifically asked us not to ever tell her that the reason we want more time with them because they like to be with us - it has to come from us.
I like the idea of mediation but she will never agree, I'm afraid it will go to court which I would do if I felt we could win. That's why I'm wondering if we should just enjoy our 21 hours a week? Which as I said is more than the agreed 8 hours. Until the kids are older and stronger?
Thanks again for all the help.
