Hi. In a divorce situation, is it abuse of the children (girl is 13, boy is 11) when in care of the father they are unable to escape hearing him and his mother constantly heaping criticism and blame on their mother? The mother is careful not to do so, and does not know this is going on. I'm the other grandparent, and only learnt of this a day ago from the daughter, who begged me not to tell her mother.