hi all, i have tried to look at this thing from every angel and come up with the best course of action and there is none that is ideal in the short term, i was wondering if you guys might consider this course of action and if it might go against me in court further down the track
stay in Qld for the next 2 years and finish my degree
continue to go and visit as much as possible, send presents, ask for updates and photos ect
continue to be nonreactive and pleasant in any communication (even if the same is not coming back)
continue to do courses, and maybe get involved in coaching kids in the sport i do and am passionate about, maybe even join some other community organization like volunteer fire fighters or something
by that time the dvo will have well and truly run its course without incident or further allegations
so the ex has cut the final line of direct communication (email) she calls me but i dont have her phone number, now the communication is through her dad via email, fine, maybe that is a good thing, this might limit her ability to play mind games and means communication will be filtered through what seems to be a rational person, it was her decision to cut communication without grounds which i can prove i believe
stop answering her calls from a private number, no more behavior that she intends to keep secret, every thing out in the open
hopefully after 2 years it is clear that i am not interested in a relationship with her and she might even have moved on to the next poor bastard, which might take the focus of her dysfunctions off me and on to the new guy ( as much as i hate the idea of another man playing dad to my boy, i accept that this is probably going to happen at some point and just hope that he is a good role model for my son)
make a concerted effort to learn how to self represent in the family court over the next 2 years
the last year has taken a considerable toll on me, use the time to rebuild my self emotionally, rebuild my life, and hopefully get a bit more financial
move to WA in two years in a planned and deliberate way once the degree is complete ( when my son is 2.5 / 3 years old ) and i am coming from a position of personal strength, and petition the court for meaningful and significant access that increases incrementally over time until hopefully a shared custody arrangement can be reached
it breaks my heart not being around my son, but i want to be smart and considered about this, do you think that this approach might go down ok with a judge when it comes before one