separated from my children's father for three years - separation was very very nasty and there is no chance of us ever being able to communicate effectively (due to death of child) and his actions .... We have no family court orders and only a parenting plan. Our children are 5 and 7...he wants more time with them. Currently, I have 12 nights out of 14... The children are happy with current arrangement as they live with myself and an older sibling in a secure home with my new husband. We live 45 minutes apart from my ex.... He wants 50/50 custody of children but my children are emotionally unsettled, nightmares, attachment issues, etc (ascertained by school)... So I am not overly looking to increase time though am thinking of increasing it to Friday school pick up to Monday school drop off (so extra night), to avoid contact between ex and I.... I am currently involved with the domestic violence police department, as ex sends harassing/abusive texts/calls and police presence has been required on 4 occasions in last three months due to my ex's behaviour.... Ex was also investigated by cps and police after a report was made against him by a step-child... Was concluded accidental but said step child was removed from his and his partner's (the mum) care for 6 weeks until a conclusion was reached.... Another report has since been made by a younger step-child but again inconclusive ... My ex has anger management issues and will not let my children speak to me when they are in his care (they ask too) I cannot afford legal representation and do not qualify for legal aid... I have been given conflicting free legal advice on what to do re the safety of my children in his care.... Do I think they are in a good safe environment? No. Do I think he could hurt them? I cannot 100% say no or yes. I am unsure due to knowing him, his violent history, plus these reports etc I am unsure whether it is in my children's best interests to increase their time in his care... They are manipulated by him and I am obviously very concerned... We have been to mediation before and got nowhere ..... Is increasing weekend time a good way to move forward?