Ok, so go slow... Give her some time. Be calm.
So she took lots of stuff. Ok. BAD - but when asset division happens you can have that calculated into the equation.
So MY STORY. Did mediation, I a paid for a solicitor, she got legal aid. she agreed to 1 night a week with the kids I wanted 5 nights fortnight. Anyways agreements made about assets. ETC ETC. But she never followed through with anything. Refused to sign paperwork, so the day of mediation with expensive solicitors was a waste of time and money. LOTS of money.
But she lost her legal aid grant, so when I stopped paying the mortage, car loan, ect ect she was screwed, she was gonna lose the house, her car, so she had to negotiate AND she had to pay a solicitor because she had lost her legal aid grant. Initially this didn't stop her being stupid. Her solicitor wrote to mine offering an asset division 105% to her and -5% to me. Madness. But the banks were closing in. So she called me and I told her I didn't care if the bank took the house or her car and she was not gonna get 105% of the assets. Instead she could have roughly 65% of the assets, I would resume paying the mortgage / car BUT when the house sold that money would be returned to me and I would have 5 nights a fortnight with the kids.
So the point I'm making is this - BE CALM - Play nice. So she took a whole bunch of stuff from the house, ok. it will be added back when calculating asset division. BTW it is a good thing that she is writing like a lawyer. Keep it professional, don't bother with mud slinging. Let her think she is the boss. PLAY SMART. So for example, you aske "by email" to 'request' to see your own kid. I find this offensive, you have to 'request' to see your kid. Oh I'm MAD for you. So go along with it. Just for the minute. All via email is good too. So this is important - bring it in tight and pay attention. From now on, everything you write COULD be read by a magistrate, so think before you write.
Final thing, call relationships Australia, get the mediation thing started. It will take weeks before you'll get your first appointment, so for the minute, just stay calm.
So she took lots of stuff. Ok. BAD - but when asset division happens you can have that calculated into the equation.
So MY STORY. Did mediation, I a paid for a solicitor, she got legal aid. she agreed to 1 night a week with the kids I wanted 5 nights fortnight. Anyways agreements made about assets. ETC ETC. But she never followed through with anything. Refused to sign paperwork, so the day of mediation with expensive solicitors was a waste of time and money. LOTS of money.
But she lost her legal aid grant, so when I stopped paying the mortage, car loan, ect ect she was screwed, she was gonna lose the house, her car, so she had to negotiate AND she had to pay a solicitor because she had lost her legal aid grant. Initially this didn't stop her being stupid. Her solicitor wrote to mine offering an asset division 105% to her and -5% to me. Madness. But the banks were closing in. So she called me and I told her I didn't care if the bank took the house or her car and she was not gonna get 105% of the assets. Instead she could have roughly 65% of the assets, I would resume paying the mortgage / car BUT when the house sold that money would be returned to me and I would have 5 nights a fortnight with the kids.
So the point I'm making is this - BE CALM - Play nice. So she took a whole bunch of stuff from the house, ok. it will be added back when calculating asset division. BTW it is a good thing that she is writing like a lawyer. Keep it professional, don't bother with mud slinging. Let her think she is the boss. PLAY SMART. So for example, you aske "by email" to 'request' to see your own kid. I find this offensive, you have to 'request' to see your kid. Oh I'm MAD for you. So go along with it. Just for the minute. All via email is good too. So this is important - bring it in tight and pay attention. From now on, everything you write COULD be read by a magistrate, so think before you write.
Final thing, call relationships Australia, get the mediation thing started. It will take weeks before you'll get your first appointment, so for the minute, just stay calm.