So as far as AVO's go -all you gotta do is NOT give her any reason to go to the cops and get one. The fact she thumped you 6 months ago is done and dusted. I disagree - you do need to have iminent fear for your safety to get an avo.
I don't think there is a feminist conspiracy out there - with women's groups getting govt funding to screw blokes over.
I also disagree that the avo helps establish a pattern of care where dad doesn't see the kid for 6 months or more that it takes to get to court and that impacts on the final decision on time with kids. Infact I reckon the magistrates see so many cases where one parent claims DV with very little solid evidence and those magistrates are pretty smart - they don't like seeing the legal system used by one parent to get an upper hand. I'd go one step further and suggest avo's are almost irrelevant when it comes to family law.
So what if my ex moves out with the kid and I don't have an avo.... I decide to pick up the kids from school without the ex's consent. She loses her s**t and there are arguments in front of the kids because of all this.AND this happens once or twice a week because I'm not gonna have HER tell me when I can see my kids.. When it goes to court we both look like twits... OR one parent moves out with the kids, the other parent plays the slow strategic game - the game that means not seeing the kids much for a while, but winds up looking good in court because the kids have not been caught up in a hugh dispute....AND all the while the ex looks like crap because she has refused to mediate / or come to an agreement about the kids spending time with dad .
Ol'd mate - send 1 text message a week - Dear ex, I would like to spend some time with XXXXXX at the weekend. Can you please advise me what times suits you. Thanks.
Nice simple - Don't get caught up in a text message war. Ask once. If she agrees GREAT. If she doesn't YOU have established that you're trying to see the kid and she is refusing. She looks bad, you look good.
I don't think there is a feminist conspiracy out there - with women's groups getting govt funding to screw blokes over.
I also disagree that the avo helps establish a pattern of care where dad doesn't see the kid for 6 months or more that it takes to get to court and that impacts on the final decision on time with kids. Infact I reckon the magistrates see so many cases where one parent claims DV with very little solid evidence and those magistrates are pretty smart - they don't like seeing the legal system used by one parent to get an upper hand. I'd go one step further and suggest avo's are almost irrelevant when it comes to family law.
So what if my ex moves out with the kid and I don't have an avo.... I decide to pick up the kids from school without the ex's consent. She loses her s**t and there are arguments in front of the kids because of all this.AND this happens once or twice a week because I'm not gonna have HER tell me when I can see my kids.. When it goes to court we both look like twits... OR one parent moves out with the kids, the other parent plays the slow strategic game - the game that means not seeing the kids much for a while, but winds up looking good in court because the kids have not been caught up in a hugh dispute....AND all the while the ex looks like crap because she has refused to mediate / or come to an agreement about the kids spending time with dad .
Ol'd mate - send 1 text message a week - Dear ex, I would like to spend some time with XXXXXX at the weekend. Can you please advise me what times suits you. Thanks.
Nice simple - Don't get caught up in a text message war. Ask once. If she agrees GREAT. If she doesn't YOU have established that you're trying to see the kid and she is refusing. She looks bad, you look good.