VIC Ex Neglecting Our Children - What to Do?

[Corinne]

You should move out so you can both buy your own food and essentials, sort out care percentage and who will be paying child support and then move on with your lives.

 

[Rod]

Based on your posts and despite the costs, one of you need to move out for the emotional well being of you and the kids. Things are unlikely to improve while living under the same roof.

If she won't move then you need to. Get yourself organised, and make it happen. If you move, after a few weeks it will seem like a breath of fresh air. You'll still be sad, and sad for some time, but should feel the beginnings of a new life emerging from the dark fog surrounding you now.

If money is an issue for you recommend you tell her to move out as your first choice and give her a set time to do it by (2-4 weeks). If she doesn't move, get yourself organised and arrange things in advance (eg deposit money, centrelink etc) and start thinking about child support to be paid by her. If she gets payslips get evidence ready for a battle over child support.

 

[Grey Fox]

Based on your posts and despite the costs, one of you need to move out for the emotional well being of you and the kids. Things are unlikely to improve while living under the same roof.

If she won't move then you need to. Get yourself organised, and make it happen. If you move, after a few weeks it will seem like a breath of fresh air. You'll still be sad, and sad for some time, but should feel the beginnings of a new life emerging from the dark fog surrounding you now.

If money is an issue for you recommend you tell her to move out as your first choice and give her a set time to do it by (2-4 weeks). If she doesn't move, get yourself organised and arrange things in advance (eg deposit money, centrelink etc) and start thinking about child support to be paid by her. If she gets payslips get evidence ready for a battle over child support.

We are both currently looking for separate houses, but the options a slim around this area. She doesn't get pay slips, she's off the books cash in hand. Thanks for the post/advice.

 

[sammy01]

Look, she should be paying half the bills. But you need to be careful asking. I reckon you're better off packing up, getting a new place. Move on. At present she is claiing 100% family tax benefit, and paying nothing towards the kids.

Go to centerlink - tell them you have 50/50 care and you want the records to show that... In fact, tell them that your living together under the same roof and ask for them to amend their records. If