Hi All, I have a rather complicated scenario. Me (32 f), ex (27 m), and child (3 yrs f). So back in 2013 me and my ex attended a party. He was heavily intoxicated (heavy drinker), got into an altercation with the man whose 40th it was. Window was broken. He got thrown out I decided to stay, was sick of his behaviour which was ongoing. Bad fights weekly. Heavy drinking all the time. Not daily but often enough. Not going to work etc. I was trying to cope with working full-time and 1 year old. All from when daughter was 4 months. We also lost daughter from still birth In 2010. As I chose not to leave party we attended he then came back 4 hours later and pulled me out of my car threw me a across the road. I wet my pants from the physical shock. I left him. Things turned sour quickly. Resulting in an intervention order ( domestic violence). Then breaches. Then at the end of that year he assaulted me whilst I was exchanging our daughter at his mother's. I was sitting in car, daughter asleep. Woke up to me receiving multiple hits to the head. Punches with a close fist. My daughter was just in shock. Police attended. I called 000. No one else did. His dad did give his details to police as witness. His mother was inside. I pressed charges. Enough was enough. For his sake also. He was 10days later arrested and charged. Released on bail. 6hours later 6 weeks later, his dad dies in front of him and his mother sudden heart attack in a public car park front of doctor surgery. We talk despite IVO. Then things got out of hand because of information about my personal affairs had been told to him which made him further angry. On top of emotion, I then filed a further breach. And left things. His last few messages were "please let me see .. our daughter. I have presents for her etc." But I filed a breach because previous when we tried being civil it turned pear shaped. Also given I have myself and daughter on ivo and there is no contact I had to file it. That was March. Come June last year or July, he was remanded for breaching his bail. For incidents not involviving me. He was then imprisoned for all the breaches. The charges from when I was assaulted. There were also threats to kill. He was convicted 24 charges in total, listed as serious violent offender. I had no idea only receiving a phone call from a friend. Now he has spent 9 months in prison. Still will possible another 9 months. But likely less. 9 months non parole. His family stopped seeing my daughter when the dad died. They blamed me for the dad not seeing her when he died. My ex was very upset with his family as he knew this was wrong. His family have not seen my daughter for a year now. She doesn't remember them. She knows her dad from the photos. But this is all. I've had no contact or anything from my ex. Being the ivo prevents mail, phone sms, etc. Should I add also there is no parenting plans or consent orders. My questions are; - if I amended the ivo so that were able to write, sms, phone. What would the ramifications be on me? -if I wrote him a letter what would the ramifications be? -I believe that he has had some time to rehabilitarlte. I want to be able to support this. -would myself contacting him have issues. I need closure, as I am sure he does. I believe we need to be able to communicate about our daughter. He has had no photos in a year. Please help.