Hi, i feel i know the answer to this but appreciate other opinions. Would it be appropriate for an ICL to interview children at my ex-wife's lawyer's office? Can that be considered at arms length? I only found out because my 12 year old daughter told me this happened. That only occurerd because she wanted to tell me she was not happy with the ICL. I heard she was pushy, didnt want to listen to what they wanted and eventually the kids gave up and my daughter said "Fine , if we have to". I promissed them the ICL was there for them to tell the court what theywant, apparently not, the ICL made a liar out of me. The ICL turned what my daughter daid into "What the children want." that I knew was untrue but i'm smart enough to know when there is no hope. ....a battle of he said she said with Dad vs ICL, problably not a good thing to get into. Then after everything is signed and not what the kids or I wanted, I realised the kids were quoted as to what they really want in the family report....so im thinking maybe there's a little justice to be had for the kids after all. I dont know if the place the ICL chose to meet the children would be considered suspicous. The ICLs office is a little further out of the way, there were other options. No one was told of this happening to the best of myknowledge. I read an article about our ICL, a proud advocate for female victims of family violence. Not afraid to admit her gender bias. Is that acceptable when advocating for children? My ex wife makes more than normal amount of false allegations for a family law preceeding, i was concerned about where the ICL would go, despitte all the evidence in my corner. Could the ICL be considered impartial on any of these facts alone? Then there is the question of what do I do with this knowledge? Given the ridiculous situation for every parent in family law, restrained by injunction from speaking to our children about their concerns with proceedings they were dragged into, intervied several times, asked inapropriate questions and given full knowledge there's a tug of war. I'm expected to tell them "Dont worry about it." that I find insulting, disrespectful and harmful to children. I take them to see their counsellors, child psycologists. I explian what I know best i can to reasure them. There are things my chidren need to know and be reminded of, I can only protect them 50% of the time, my daughters psycologist recomended to the court that an emergency plan is put in place when the kids are in mums care. I dont trash talk their mum while she does present challanges to us all. Think im breeching court order helping my children understand. Any thoughts on that also appreciated.