Background info:
Recently received sealed Children Orders after final hearing. Kids 4 & 3 yo and live with me (mum). Currently spend time with dad alt w/e (3 nights) plus 2 daytime periods. Transitioning to 5/9 fortnight. Mum & dad not communicating well. Email & SMS only.
Interim Orders weren't overly detailed, so has been a constant battle as something is always an issue, school, kinder sessions, you name it! I've been accused of withholding the kids and not informing the kids' dad about issues amongst other things. Dad threatens contravention applications against me.
Now, here we are again with unclear Final Orders which can be interpreted one way by me and another by dad. Again, I have been accused of withholding the kids. Maybe I'm doing something wrong? I don't think I am. I feel like he's building a case against me. Should I just let dad have his way to keep the peace? At the same time, I don't want to be breaching Orders.
Unfortunately there are many ambiguous clauses that in the crazy rush of a final hearing were missed. I thought getting final orders would solve some of the issues dad and I were having, but they seem to have created new ones. Dad has spent $200k on legals and can't see the damage the constant conflict is causing the kids. (I am being blamed for this, too). I'd just like to get on with my life after enduring years of a controlling relationship.
I'd like some help on the following:
1. How do I manage the relationship with kids' dad so that everything doesn't become an issue? Is it OK to outline specific clauses in the orders on this forum? Ones that I think may become an issue so I can get some help?
2. How long do I have to get changes (more like clarification than changes) made with the Slip Rule? Is there a deadline? My lawyer didn't allow any requests for changes/clarification saying I would anger the judge and would be up for costs. Dad's lawyer also refused changes under Slip Rule.
3. Can I just get a different lawyer to write to the judges' associate about what I want changed under the slip rule?
4. Or can I write to the judges' associate directly myself?
5. Can I do this independently of dad, as his lawyer is not entering into discussions about changes under the slip rule?
6. Is it even worth going to the cost/effort of amending final orders? As it will be an uphill battle with dad's legal team anyway.
7. If I don't get any changes made under slip rule, do I have any other legal avenues or will I just have to live with ambiguous orders for the next 15 years?
Apologies for the long post. Thanks in advance for any help.
Recently received sealed Children Orders after final hearing. Kids 4 & 3 yo and live with me (mum). Currently spend time with dad alt w/e (3 nights) plus 2 daytime periods. Transitioning to 5/9 fortnight. Mum & dad not communicating well. Email & SMS only.
Interim Orders weren't overly detailed, so has been a constant battle as something is always an issue, school, kinder sessions, you name it! I've been accused of withholding the kids and not informing the kids' dad about issues amongst other things. Dad threatens contravention applications against me.
Now, here we are again with unclear Final Orders which can be interpreted one way by me and another by dad. Again, I have been accused of withholding the kids. Maybe I'm doing something wrong? I don't think I am. I feel like he's building a case against me. Should I just let dad have his way to keep the peace? At the same time, I don't want to be breaching Orders.
Unfortunately there are many ambiguous clauses that in the crazy rush of a final hearing were missed. I thought getting final orders would solve some of the issues dad and I were having, but they seem to have created new ones. Dad has spent $200k on legals and can't see the damage the constant conflict is causing the kids. (I am being blamed for this, too). I'd just like to get on with my life after enduring years of a controlling relationship.
I'd like some help on the following:
1. How do I manage the relationship with kids' dad so that everything doesn't become an issue? Is it OK to outline specific clauses in the orders on this forum? Ones that I think may become an issue so I can get some help?
2. How long do I have to get changes (more like clarification than changes) made with the Slip Rule? Is there a deadline? My lawyer didn't allow any requests for changes/clarification saying I would anger the judge and would be up for costs. Dad's lawyer also refused changes under Slip Rule.
3. Can I just get a different lawyer to write to the judges' associate about what I want changed under the slip rule?
4. Or can I write to the judges' associate directly myself?
5. Can I do this independently of dad, as his lawyer is not entering into discussions about changes under the slip rule?
6. Is it even worth going to the cost/effort of amending final orders? As it will be an uphill battle with dad's legal team anyway.
7. If I don't get any changes made under slip rule, do I have any other legal avenues or will I just have to live with ambiguous orders for the next 15 years?
Apologies for the long post. Thanks in advance for any help.