You're not stupid.... See I think costs orders get made when one party was stupid... And their stupidity lead to extra $$ getting wasted.. In short judge has to satisfied that the other party was out of pocket because of your stupidity...
So help us out... IN summary... What was your proposal for kids? What was his? Now I don't think there was a huge discrepancy there... You didn't refuse access just for for fun?
Next financials - what % of assets did you claim you should get? What did he say you should get.... So (don't laugh - this is what my ex did) she made a proposal where she got 105% of the assets - YEP 105%... Now if she maintained that stance and it went to a full trial, then I would have had a good claim for costs...
Finally, how much $$$ is the ex chasing you for to settle the costs matter without court?
oops one more thing... Don't respond. OR respond yourself... Dont waste money on solicitors unless you're actually going to court... BUT I might change my advice depending on your answers to all the questions above...
So help us out... IN summary... What was your proposal for kids? What was his? Now I don't think there was a huge discrepancy there... You didn't refuse access just for for fun?
Next financials - what % of assets did you claim you should get? What did he say you should get.... So (don't laugh - this is what my ex did) she made a proposal where she got 105% of the assets - YEP 105%... Now if she maintained that stance and it went to a full trial, then I would have had a good claim for costs...
Finally, how much $$$ is the ex chasing you for to settle the costs matter without court?
oops one more thing... Don't respond. OR respond yourself... Dont waste money on solicitors unless you're actually going to court... BUT I might change my advice depending on your answers to all the questions above...