Hi, So this is a bit long-winded, sorry. So I'm a grandparent carer. The child has been with me for 4 years. Child's mother has little to no contact, so here is where it gets messy! At first, I thought the child was to father number 1. Months after birth, it came out the child is the son of father number 2. My daughter is 16 and the father 32 at the time of the relationship. There was violence, so police organised the mother to return home where she started living with father 1. The baby was born and the father 1 signed the birth certificate or details at the hospital, I'm unsure. Now in the hospital, the nurse and the social worker was worried about the drugs used, so the baby was sent home with me. During this time, the mum cleaned up her act for few months and had the baby, but eventually the baby came back. During this time and up until 2014, father 2 denied the child and went on with life. Fast forward, and mum moves to the city, leaving the baby with me. Fast forward and my family, including the child moved interstate. Father number 2 makes contact, does a peace of mind D and A test, and from there, I organised visits. The father quickly takes over the child who was only 2 and a half and isn't returned on time from visits. The father moves 4 times FTEs, breaking up with his girlfriend. Docs became involved and removed the other child. Docs will not tell me the reason why, but in the end, the family lived in the caravan park and he had drug problems. The father blamed all this on the new girlfriend. I also find out the father was on parole. I spoke to Docs, who tell me they are happy for the child to stay with me and will not get involved, but I may be investigated if I allow visits. I spoke to the father who demanded a birth certificate for Centrelink payments (at this stage, I find out the child is not registered). I saw a lawyer who also says to stop visit for intern and we attend mediation. The father does not go to mediation. I cannot afford family court, so the child just stayed with me. Fast forward 12 months later, my daughter is in jail and the father is taking me to court for full custody of children. The child has Autism, separation anxiety, ADHD, and neither parent will organise a birth certificate so the child can not attend school! The father has also sent me messages threatening to 'expose family violence and to be careful of my next move' (I have kept all messages but not sure if I'm grasping at straws). The father has claimed he had the child 40% of time (his visits were never that often though I did organise extra days around holidays, etc.) I have most things in text including evidence he knew about the child when the child was a baby. I'm lost and have no idea what to do!!