My partner has been in a legal battle with her ex after he walked out from his own controlling relationship. He has never shown any interest in the child and we have reports from negligent to deliberate and dangerous acts. This all happened in the first 6 months of the child's life but he is still showing major signs of trauma from court imposed visits and after the separation we have had stalking, car tires punctured in our driveway (witg the child seat in the car) among other things. Unfortunately we have a lot of photos but not enough to put things to a stop or on hold.
Obviously our number 1 concern is for the safety of the child and what he is capable of unsupervised.
Secondly, we are concerned for the psychological damage his control will put on the child who barely knows him (only calls me, his step dad dad along with his siblings which are mine) and has never had any sort of a relationship.
Thirdly, even if it all goes well we are told he has the power to refuse things like holidays, weekend sports, anything that can clash with his time even if the child wants to do these things. What are our rights here, what are his rights? Every child has a right to be with their siblings or family that love them for Christmas etc, play sport on weekends and look forward to a holiday. There's every will refuse all of this out of spite if he gets the opportunity.
Personally I'm happy for him to go any time as long as it's in the child's best interests and as long as he feels safe (clearly not the case right now but it seems court can't see that), but if a controlling father can do things like this out of pure spite and not cooperate with any reasonable request where does that leave us?
Obviously our number 1 concern is for the safety of the child and what he is capable of unsupervised.
Secondly, we are concerned for the psychological damage his control will put on the child who barely knows him (only calls me, his step dad dad along with his siblings which are mine) and has never had any sort of a relationship.
Thirdly, even if it all goes well we are told he has the power to refuse things like holidays, weekend sports, anything that can clash with his time even if the child wants to do these things. What are our rights here, what are his rights? Every child has a right to be with their siblings or family that love them for Christmas etc, play sport on weekends and look forward to a holiday. There's every will refuse all of this out of spite if he gets the opportunity.
Personally I'm happy for him to go any time as long as it's in the child's best interests and as long as he feels safe (clearly not the case right now but it seems court can't see that), but if a controlling father can do things like this out of pure spite and not cooperate with any reasonable request where does that leave us?