Posting on behalf of my fiance..
He currently has orders in place (last 5 years). He finally got orders after paying $$$ through lawyers. He gets just half school holidays and every second weekend, but now wants to go for more time as its been far too long on minimal time.
To give a little background on his ex - His ex refused him seeing his children. He tried calling ( she wouldn't answer his calls), he tried turning up at their sports games ( she would lie about the venue they were playing at so he missed the games and weren't there when he turned up).
Over the last 5 years, the mother has breached orders such as always coming up with an excuse why the children cannot talk to their dad ( eating dinner, in the shower, on the toilet, at sports - this happens EVERY night until this day) We provided the eldest with a phone so he has better contact(court ordered). The mother insists he keeps the phone in the fruit bowl most of the time. The orders specify, the children can contact their dad as much as they want but she is still controlling it.
Another term of the orders is that a parent nor a third party can speak ill of the other parent. We know she is doing this as the children tell us, and just recently, the eldest told us that the Grandparents (the mothers parents) had visited and were speaking ill of their father and that " he does nothing for them", " hes a dead beat dad", " make the right decisions who you want to spend time with" etc etc. This is a breach and we want to know how to deal with this? We make it a rule not to talk about family members in front of them because we don't want the kids involved.
Currently the eldest child is 14.5 years old and has started talking about wanting to live with his Dad. What steps does he need to go through to do this? His mother would 100% not want/or let him do this so we know it will be a battle. But because of the childs age, does he have any rights to choose?
His home life with his mum is fine ( although he doesnt really like his stepdad too much).
We live 1 and a half hrs away, which isnt too far, however its far enough that he would need to change schools and start a new school life with us.
We think its time he spent more time with his father as hes growing up and needs that father figure to guide him.
We have a secure home, secure jobs, a great family community, and the children already have made friends in the area.
I'd also like to note that the youngest is 10 years old. He also loves spending time at Dads and always wants to stay longer with us, so not sure if he would be granted full time with Dad also...
Any help would be much appreciated!
He currently has orders in place (last 5 years). He finally got orders after paying $$$ through lawyers. He gets just half school holidays and every second weekend, but now wants to go for more time as its been far too long on minimal time.
To give a little background on his ex - His ex refused him seeing his children. He tried calling ( she wouldn't answer his calls), he tried turning up at their sports games ( she would lie about the venue they were playing at so he missed the games and weren't there when he turned up).
Over the last 5 years, the mother has breached orders such as always coming up with an excuse why the children cannot talk to their dad ( eating dinner, in the shower, on the toilet, at sports - this happens EVERY night until this day) We provided the eldest with a phone so he has better contact(court ordered). The mother insists he keeps the phone in the fruit bowl most of the time. The orders specify, the children can contact their dad as much as they want but she is still controlling it.
Another term of the orders is that a parent nor a third party can speak ill of the other parent. We know she is doing this as the children tell us, and just recently, the eldest told us that the Grandparents (the mothers parents) had visited and were speaking ill of their father and that " he does nothing for them", " hes a dead beat dad", " make the right decisions who you want to spend time with" etc etc. This is a breach and we want to know how to deal with this? We make it a rule not to talk about family members in front of them because we don't want the kids involved.
Currently the eldest child is 14.5 years old and has started talking about wanting to live with his Dad. What steps does he need to go through to do this? His mother would 100% not want/or let him do this so we know it will be a battle. But because of the childs age, does he have any rights to choose?
His home life with his mum is fine ( although he doesnt really like his stepdad too much).
We live 1 and a half hrs away, which isnt too far, however its far enough that he would need to change schools and start a new school life with us.
We think its time he spent more time with his father as hes growing up and needs that father figure to guide him.
We have a secure home, secure jobs, a great family community, and the children already have made friends in the area.
I'd also like to note that the youngest is 10 years old. He also loves spending time at Dads and always wants to stay longer with us, so not sure if he would be granted full time with Dad also...
Any help would be much appreciated!