NSW Concerns for child welfare - poor accomodation & care

Okay, so, some objective perspective.

Dad lives overseas, so what do you think is a reasonable expectation for the brief and intermittent periods that he returns to Australia?

Should he be expected to find the finances to have a second home here, with all the bells and whistles that he has for his house back in what is now his home country?

Should he spend $250 a night on a hotel for the full duration of the trip?

Should he enter into a six-month lease on a rental and then break lease when it comes time for him to return home?

Or, should he take advantage of his brother's generous offer of a place to stay free of charge for the brief time that he's in the country?

If the material comfort is so much more important than the very few times that your daughter gets to see her father, is there a better alternative for care arrangements, such as facilitating your daughter's travel to her father's country of residence?

And I mean, I take my kids away for a week with a mattress in our ute, go to the toilet in the bush and have a shower once the whole time we're away. We call it camping, and it's honestly proving to be some of the most cherished memories of their childhoods.

But all of that is also very much irrelevant for one very simple reason: you, and he, have parenting orders, and what you've listed above doesn't reflect a valid reason for contravening them.

I used to live in the bush... cooked outside... boiled water for a shower... chopped wood. My mate who owned the place had a kid that would visit sometimes.... the kids loved it...

You are not gonna get legal opinion here.... he could apply to court if u don't let the kiday go with dad.... but I doubt it....

My thoughts... dI'd the kids say she was uncomfortable? hated it? Was scared? Look if the kids coped the let it go... building a bit of resilience... if the kids had nightmares and exhibited signs of being traumatised.... then reconsider.....
Or... ifrom it is that big a deal offer the ex your place.... WHAT? Yep go on dare ya... putting your kids needs first is good parenting....

Camping, as a general rule, is good for kids. There a huge difference between living rough for a short period of time, and neglect. Neglect is all you need worry about, not rough living conditions.

Listen to what your kid is saying, really saying, without imposing your own feelings onto your kid. Maybe you are frightened of listening, not wanting to hear about how your kid feels about seeing their father again. You'll likely get more respect from your child if the child sees you as encouraging their relationship with their father rather than putting obstacles in the way.

Rod said:

Camping, as a general rule, is good for kids. There a huge difference between living rough for a short period of time, and neglect. Neglect is all you need worry about, not rough living conditions.

Listen to what your kid is saying, really saying, without imposing your own feelings onto your kid. Maybe you are frightened of listening, not wanting to hear about how your kid feels about seeing their father again. You'll likely get more respect from your child if the child sees you as encouraging their relationship with their father rather than putting obstacles in the way.

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Totally agree with you here. Thanks!