Hi
This is a tad long with background info which I'm not sure is relevant or not.
My ex hasn't had much to do with our kids since disappearing over 3yrs ago. He was heavily into drugs and from recent observations (unfortunately not mine) he is still largely using. But soon after leaving he met and fell pregnant with another lady who had lost her 5 previous children to the state where this one promptly followed upon birth and my ex somehow got custody of the child but has since lost it.
Over the last 3+ yrs he has seen our kids maybe 6 times, disappearing for months at a time after the latest being over 15+ mths of no contact. When he made contact I agreed to let him see the kids for a few hours, but he has since left the state to try and get his other child back (has said that it's a condition he be where his family is).
He is now saying that he is taking me to welfare to be able to see the boys as I won't go interstate with them to see him, his conditions are I stay with his family or his friends which I don't feel comfortable with either.
So I'm wanting to know where does welfare come into it? I was under the impression that the mediation process was where things started? Am I completely lost? He has told me that he will get everything he wants and I won't have a say, is that right? Does things like his drug use, losing custody of his other child etc come into play?
There are currently no courts orders or parenting plans etc in place as he has just not been around.
This is a tad long with background info which I'm not sure is relevant or not.
My ex hasn't had much to do with our kids since disappearing over 3yrs ago. He was heavily into drugs and from recent observations (unfortunately not mine) he is still largely using. But soon after leaving he met and fell pregnant with another lady who had lost her 5 previous children to the state where this one promptly followed upon birth and my ex somehow got custody of the child but has since lost it.
Over the last 3+ yrs he has seen our kids maybe 6 times, disappearing for months at a time after the latest being over 15+ mths of no contact. When he made contact I agreed to let him see the kids for a few hours, but he has since left the state to try and get his other child back (has said that it's a condition he be where his family is).
He is now saying that he is taking me to welfare to be able to see the boys as I won't go interstate with them to see him, his conditions are I stay with his family or his friends which I don't feel comfortable with either.
So I'm wanting to know where does welfare come into it? I was under the impression that the mediation process was where things started? Am I completely lost? He has told me that he will get everything he wants and I won't have a say, is that right? Does things like his drug use, losing custody of his other child etc come into play?
There are currently no courts orders or parenting plans etc in place as he has just not been around.
