My wife and myself have been discussing divorce. We have completely different ideas on everything.
She is Chinese and lies all the time.
Yesterday I was on the phone to a friend of mine and she said you can't trust anyone. I said to her I can trust you and I can trust my brother.
My wife heard this and said yes. "You don't trust me. We should divorce." I could not tell her I trust her because she constantly lies to me.
Next thing I know, we are driving to pickup my daughter from a Chinese class. My wife is yelling at me berating me. I yell back at her. She continues to berate me and I turn the radio to high volume. She then calls the police.
For fear that she will make up a story about physical abuse (I have never touched her in any violent or forceful way, however, she knows that this is a custody chip) I will not let her back in the car and she can either walk home or go to her friend's place around the corner. She has money, keys and phone.
She has a set of keys but does not use them to open the door. She calls the police again. I have never had any interaction with police except for minor traffic infringements and twice when my house was burgled.
The police asked my side of the story. I explained "She yelled at me and I yelled back at her. She continued to berate me and I turned the volume up high". The police officer said there are always two versions which means that she must have told them something different.
I look after my daughter during school holidays, I normally drop my daughter and pick her up from school, I tutor her in Maths and English 3 days a week and swimming 1 day a week. I cook her dinner during the week and sometimes on weekends. With the coaching that I have given her over the last 2 - 3 years, she has been excelling everywhere. She ran fastest in her age group in her school. She is representing the state in the nationals in aerobics. She won a 3rd and 4th in her swimming races. She was one of 4 selected from her year to attend a leadership program that the school paid for. Her maths has come from struggling and in the bottom of her class to on Friday being the best in Maths Prodigy competition in a class with both year 5 and 6 (she is in year 5).
My wife tutors her in Chinese.
My wife is self centred and doesn't mind changing the version of events to get what she wants.
My daughter is the most important thing in my life. She is the reason I have stayed with my wife for the last 10 years being berated almost every day. I used to own a relatively successful small business that turned over a million dollars a year but due to the stress and constant berating had to sell that off.
Should I me concerned? Is my wife trying to set herself up for custody? What if anything should I do to protect myself and my daughter and my future custody of my daughter when divorce eventually happens?
She is Chinese and lies all the time.
Yesterday I was on the phone to a friend of mine and she said you can't trust anyone. I said to her I can trust you and I can trust my brother.
My wife heard this and said yes. "You don't trust me. We should divorce." I could not tell her I trust her because she constantly lies to me.
Next thing I know, we are driving to pickup my daughter from a Chinese class. My wife is yelling at me berating me. I yell back at her. She continues to berate me and I turn the radio to high volume. She then calls the police.
For fear that she will make up a story about physical abuse (I have never touched her in any violent or forceful way, however, she knows that this is a custody chip) I will not let her back in the car and she can either walk home or go to her friend's place around the corner. She has money, keys and phone.
She has a set of keys but does not use them to open the door. She calls the police again. I have never had any interaction with police except for minor traffic infringements and twice when my house was burgled.
The police asked my side of the story. I explained "She yelled at me and I yelled back at her. She continued to berate me and I turned the volume up high". The police officer said there are always two versions which means that she must have told them something different.
I look after my daughter during school holidays, I normally drop my daughter and pick her up from school, I tutor her in Maths and English 3 days a week and swimming 1 day a week. I cook her dinner during the week and sometimes on weekends. With the coaching that I have given her over the last 2 - 3 years, she has been excelling everywhere. She ran fastest in her age group in her school. She is representing the state in the nationals in aerobics. She won a 3rd and 4th in her swimming races. She was one of 4 selected from her year to attend a leadership program that the school paid for. Her maths has come from struggling and in the bottom of her class to on Friday being the best in Maths Prodigy competition in a class with both year 5 and 6 (she is in year 5).
My wife tutors her in Chinese.
My wife is self centred and doesn't mind changing the version of events to get what she wants.
My daughter is the most important thing in my life. She is the reason I have stayed with my wife for the last 10 years being berated almost every day. I used to own a relatively successful small business that turned over a million dollars a year but due to the stress and constant berating had to sell that off.
Should I me concerned? Is my wife trying to set herself up for custody? What if anything should I do to protect myself and my daughter and my future custody of my daughter when divorce eventually happens?