QLD What is the Normal Timeframe of Family Dispute Resolution?

[miguel]

This report caused untold harm to both males and females for a very long time and actually coined the phrase "you have been mcintoshed" amongst those in the legal profession

Alina; I didn't provide the initial comment, but this was an interesting read; Empty days, lonely nights

It quotes Barristers saying you have been McIntoshed.

 

[Nonfiction]

Abstract: Two central issues in this article are the extent to which young children’s time should be spent predominantly in the care of the same parent or be divided more evenly between both parents, and whether children under the age of 4 should sleep in the same home every night or spend overnights in both parents’ homes.

Full Report
* Social Science and Parenting Plans for Young Children - A Consensus Report - Richard A. Warshak

 

[thatbloke]

I consider the most important part of my role is to promote best interests of children. I can hear you feel jaded by the system.

With the greatest respect to you if you even once ever quote any report that includes the name of McIntosh you are not promoting the best interest of the children at all but are pushing a well trodden discredited agenda on no live with parents to spend limited time with their children ( Often mediators have failed to do the same thing)

As for me being jaded with the system nothing could be further from the truth I had primary care of my daughter for years I have primary care of my 7 year old son I have always self represented and I help others be reunited with their children

I am not jaded at all in fact I relish the challenge of the system as I enjoy the buzz of breaking down other people's arguments and reuniting people with their children. Does it need to be changed ? Yes do I Advocate change ? Yes ..but I also accept the system and work within it the best I can to help others the best I can

I suggest you spend some free time researching McIntosh reports flawed data and how it has been discredited so many times and then come back to me with what you have learnt

We all make mistakes and I hope the research I have pointed you towards leads you to change your approach once you learn the truth

And it's saying all this of course I accept that I sometimes when it is better for the children because of conflict between the parents not to be placed in the middle of that conflict by spending time with one parent or another and I also spent a lot of my time trying to change the mindset of parents who engage in this conflict so that the children can spend time with both parents

Thank you

 

[thatbloke]

And obviously I placed my in brackets comment in the wrong place in my message sorry

 

[Alina Kleiman]

Thanks - weekend reading sorted! I became a mediator precisely for the reasons you have stated. We need to get better at this whole separating thing as a society. Children need to be bonded to both parents, they also have a need for healthy attachments to both parents. Since you were the primary carer I would be curious to hear your thoughts about attachment theory?

 

[Alina Kleiman]

Now I placed brackets in the wrong place! Apologies.

 

[MartyK]

My youngest a well adjusted young adult, spent overnights with me from before age 1 - it can work - not suitable for all children

Style of argument can be misinterpreted as jaded to a reader - interested in reading discrediting research, thatbloke - please post - cited are opinion pieces only

 

[thatbloke]

My youngest a well adjusted young adult, spent overnights with me from before age 1 - it can work - not suitable for all children

Style of argument can be misinterpreted as jaded to a reader - interested in reading discrediting research, thatbloke - please post - cited are opinion pieces only

Who are you the editor? Some kind of censor? The Queen?? Ill post what i like and if you do not like it dont read it chum

 

[sammy01]

I kinda like McIntosh....
so that article "Empty Days Lonely Nights" states. "Her study suggests even one night a week of overnight care undertaken by the non-primary parent may increase the stress levels of children aged zero to two in certain circumstances."
I like the words "SUGGESTS" and "MAY" and 'in certain circumstances"
Lets re word this, there might be instances where overnight care is a bad idea for little ones... No genius in that.. It is when her words are twisted. She does not recommend shared care - more than 5 a fortnight for little ones... SWEET I'm good with that... BUT idiots tweak that into NOT recommending shared care EVER...

But this post was about the normal time frame for family dispute resolution... EASY take the number 18 then minus the age of the youngest child. That is your answer in years.... OH I am funny.

 

[thatbloke]

EASY take the number 18 then minus the age of the youngest child. That is your answer in years.... OH I am funny.

Please do not post mathematical equations unless you have a peer reviewed cited document to show everyone.. it makes baby Jesus sad :-D