Long story as short as I can get it.. 7 years ago I had a very brief, drunken fling with a girl who came back a week later pregnant. Have had nothing but drama since.. I was allowed access for first year (I was with new partner, now wife) while the mother got drunk daily. Then access was stopped when I refused to leave my partner. For the past 6 1/2 years it has been a constant battle, no amount of money could win me and have been constantly denied access/contact! She always said the girl wasn't mine so she wasn't going to go for child support even though I have paid for clothes, shoes and school fees/supplies. Now I have just gotten a child support letter in the mail saying I have to pay a ridiculous amount a month in current and back dated child support. I have a wife and 2 children here to support and do not have the money they are asking for a week. The mother refuses to let me get a paternity test or DNA Testing and my family (who are allowed to babysit when needed on strict conditions I am not allowed to be contacted or to call while child is there) have been "banned" from seeing her because they sent me a photo without permission and she is worried they will do test behind her back. I have no more money left to fight this losing battle and I am at a loss as to what more I can do. Is there any way I cannot pay child support under family law without having live on the streets to finance a lawyer just to get nowhere yet again?