Hi,
I have a strange problem and would love some direction. An ex of mine told Child Services I was the father of two of her children (this started 8 yrs ago). Child Services called my employer (father-in law) for pay docking but I was a sub-contractor so they couldn't do anything. This was the first I knew about any of this. Called them told them I'm requesting a copy of the childrens' birth certs as I KNOW that the real father's name (also John) was on them. Was told I couldn't see them but they checked, saw it wasn't me then dropped it. No paperwork ever received. Fast forward about 7 yrs and I got an inheritance. Suddenly I owe $11,000 in child support. Called Child services multiple times then won't send me any paperwork, promise they will though. Went to solicitor told I'd have to pay $3000 plus $800 (test kits) minimum for her to represent us. I've got a new baby with my wife (my only child) and can't justify spending our savings on that. Was able to email back and forth with this girl. She accepted she'd do a standard DNA test. Bought the 'cheaper' kits $500! Suddenly she's refusing and saying she feels 'extremely uncomfortable' and wants my solicitor to contact her (directly). She can get legal aid but I can't. I know I have a few options - the cheapest is send her the tests so she has them which will demonstrate that she's refusing, if this goes to court, then email one last time stating that basically I'll have to go through court and if it's positive I'll be going for custody ( at least 50/50) if not will be fighting till I get compensation. Option 2 Go for custody of the two girls (knowing that they aren't my children) then get them swabbed once she agrees and realises her benefits are lessened. I couldn't do this to the poor children though. Go to a solicitor, then follow through with getting a judgement debt for costs once negative results. Last option, do nothing as the debt is there but hasn't affected me for this long..... Everything (our house included) is only in my wife's name. I'm worried that my tax return will go to her though and we need that money now we're on one income. For the record I received the inheritance without issue. I need this woman out of my life and I don't feel like I should have to spend that money if I'm not even on the birth cert. The emailing has dragged on for 8 months (this time!) as she doesn't want to do the tests.
Please help, my wife (and myself) are incredibly stressed and upset about this.
Thanks in advance.
I have a strange problem and would love some direction. An ex of mine told Child Services I was the father of two of her children (this started 8 yrs ago). Child Services called my employer (father-in law) for pay docking but I was a sub-contractor so they couldn't do anything. This was the first I knew about any of this. Called them told them I'm requesting a copy of the childrens' birth certs as I KNOW that the real father's name (also John) was on them. Was told I couldn't see them but they checked, saw it wasn't me then dropped it. No paperwork ever received. Fast forward about 7 yrs and I got an inheritance. Suddenly I owe $11,000 in child support. Called Child services multiple times then won't send me any paperwork, promise they will though. Went to solicitor told I'd have to pay $3000 plus $800 (test kits) minimum for her to represent us. I've got a new baby with my wife (my only child) and can't justify spending our savings on that. Was able to email back and forth with this girl. She accepted she'd do a standard DNA test. Bought the 'cheaper' kits $500! Suddenly she's refusing and saying she feels 'extremely uncomfortable' and wants my solicitor to contact her (directly). She can get legal aid but I can't. I know I have a few options - the cheapest is send her the tests so she has them which will demonstrate that she's refusing, if this goes to court, then email one last time stating that basically I'll have to go through court and if it's positive I'll be going for custody ( at least 50/50) if not will be fighting till I get compensation. Option 2 Go for custody of the two girls (knowing that they aren't my children) then get them swabbed once she agrees and realises her benefits are lessened. I couldn't do this to the poor children though. Go to a solicitor, then follow through with getting a judgement debt for costs once negative results. Last option, do nothing as the debt is there but hasn't affected me for this long..... Everything (our house included) is only in my wife's name. I'm worried that my tax return will go to her though and we need that money now we're on one income. For the record I received the inheritance without issue. I need this woman out of my life and I don't feel like I should have to spend that money if I'm not even on the birth cert. The emailing has dragged on for 8 months (this time!) as she doesn't want to do the tests.
Please help, my wife (and myself) are incredibly stressed and upset about this.
Thanks in advance.