Chris, while you probably don't 'deserve' to be going through this, you are and you have to 'man up' and deal with it in the best possible way. I agree with rjm, you may come across badly even if you are the 'victim' here. Try to keep emotion out of it as much as you can, stick to the facts and look like the sensible one. That's if you even get a word in. In my limited court experience, most of it is decided by submissions, not discussions. Would be interested to hear your experiences after the event anyway.