Hello, I have been divorced for 9 years, and we have a 10 year old daughter. We have both since remarried other people, and I now have a 6 year old son. Over the last 9 years, we have had an agreement between the two of us, which is 50/50 care for our daughter. On family events, holidays, we have always negotiated changes to the days or weeks we have her and there is always a solution to it. Recently my ex wife told me she wanted to take our daughter to the USA to celebrate her nieces birthday in July 2015. I am fine with that, but as it turns out, she will miss nearly 2 weeks of schooling. I said I am not happy about her missing that much school. She replied OK then. A few weeks later (last Friday night), we spoke on the phone, she told me she has had legal advice, and she doesn't need my permission, and she is going to take her away for the holiday regardless of my feelings, and refuses to change the dates! What has really offended me is that when anything remotely like this has come up in the past, we have always negotiated, and worked out differences amicably with no problems. Basically, my rights and feelings as my daughters father have been totally disrespected, not to mention all the things my 2nd wife of 7 years has given up for the sake of my daughter. She never sees her family on Xmas day, so her step-daughter can see her mum and dad on that day (my wife's family live far away) is just one example. My question is - legally, can either party just change the dates that have been mutually agreed upon in advance in our agreement when the other party does not agree? If this is a yes answer, then what is there to stop it happening continually in the future or happening for months on end? Also, if it is a yes answer, I feel it opens the floodgates for future incidents of totally disrespecting the feelings of the other party, and there will only be one victim - my daughter - and that is a road I do not want to go down. If it is a yes answer, it is basically stealing time with my daughter! There has to be some way I / we can resolve this situation amicably. I have suggested moving the holiday a week earlier, so they will still see everyone, and my daughter will not miss that much school. Total refusal to do so. Basically, she is going to do what she wants, and to hell with my feelings! I do not want to stop them going, and I have said that, it is just the dates I am uneasy with, but she refuses to change the date what should I do??? Can someone please reply soon to this, I am very anxious to have this cleared up. Thanks for your time.