I have been separated from my husband for 18 months. I left, moved to my mum's, renovated her garage & have been living there ever since with my 2 daughters,ages 4 & 6. We did try numerous times to fix the marriage but it cannot be repaired. My husband is very controlling, emotionally & verbally abusive (particularly when drinking) & very manipulative. He only calls when it suits him to speak to the girls, he doesn't pick them up on his alternate weekend, would not cooperate with a parenting plan. He did not see the girls for there birthdays, or Easter, and would not answer the girls' calls to wish him a happy Easter or to my suggestion to see the girls. He continuously attacks me causing me of brainwashing the girls & attacks my mental state, something he always did when we were together. I now know that it's not me at all but his psychological abuse. He will not sell our property, will not buy me out or allow me to buy him out. I have sent numerous letters requesting disclosure through my solicitor to sort financial & children matters to which he refuses to address. I have spent close to $4000 & I now have to go to court, which will cost thousands more. How is any of this fair to me or the children? Will he have to help pay court costs. I a, struggling to find the money to go to court? He also has not paid any child support for the entire 18 months of separation. I need to find a place for myself & the children but I cannot afford to rent & keep paying the mortgage. The house is not being maintained at all, grass & gardens completely overgrown, bathrooms are dirty & basically looks as though there has been no cleaning in months.