Hi,
I'd like help, if I may please.
I signed consent orders in December 2015. My 14-year-old is to spend every second weekend at the dad's house. The dad moved out of the area approximately 2 years ago and is now a 50-minute drive away. Changeovers are to occur at 5 pm on Friday and returned by 5 pm Sunday. Also, changeovers were meant to be approximately the half way point (me, the mother drives for half an hour, the father of our child drives for 15minutes).
Previously, I was working until 2 pm which allowed me time to do the changeover at 5 pm. However, I am now working full time until 5 pm sometimes till 5.30pm. Which means I now cannot make the changeover time of 5 pm. Also, it has come to my attention that the park that I am to do the changeovers at is not a very nice park. It scares me, there are gay peoples having sex in the toilet blocks at the park, lots of creepy people and it's off the highway, isolated and dark with no lighting. A severed head was found in the park a couple of years ago.
I'm afraid to be there after dark and do not want to expose our daughter to this. I feel frightened something may happen to us. I tried to convey this to the father of our daughter to no avail.
Child support payments from the child's father are sporadic as I am a low in income earner. I often struggle to have enough money for fuel to do changeovers (I have 3 older children to support). Our older son works in the afternoons and I've got to collect him between 5 and 6 pm.
I have asked her dad to collect her from my place, however, her father has refused to collect for his visitation because I can't make it by 5 pm to the changeover point and says I've contravened. I now have a nasty letter from his Lawyer saying I've broken the law and that I've withheld our child (which I haven't, this is completely incorrect) and if I do it again he will be putting a contravention in place and ask that I be punished and that I have to pay his court costs.
One other thing: our daughter, being 14, wants to hang out with her friends on weekends. A couple of weeks ago she was invited to a party when it was the weekend she was meant to go to her dad's. She asked her dad if she could go there instead of his place for the weekend as it was a sleepover. He absolutely objected to this and has also brought that weekend up in the letter from his Lawyer.
Questions:
Can I change the consent orders? How do I do this to reflect that I am working longer and that the park is a frightening place? That I can't always afford the drive to do changeover?
I also now have to pick up my son from his job at any time between 5-6pm when I'm meant to be doing changeovers as well. Not sure what to do at this point. He just won't negotiate. Completely refuses to acknowledge that my circumstances have changed.
At 14, it's hard to get her to go to her dad's every second weekend. I have no problem with him collecting her from school, etc. Does she just have to miss out on being with her friends or only see her friends when she's with me?
What's likely to happen if it goes to family court? I'm not withholding her at all.
I'd like help, if I may please.
I signed consent orders in December 2015. My 14-year-old is to spend every second weekend at the dad's house. The dad moved out of the area approximately 2 years ago and is now a 50-minute drive away. Changeovers are to occur at 5 pm on Friday and returned by 5 pm Sunday. Also, changeovers were meant to be approximately the half way point (me, the mother drives for half an hour, the father of our child drives for 15minutes).
Previously, I was working until 2 pm which allowed me time to do the changeover at 5 pm. However, I am now working full time until 5 pm sometimes till 5.30pm. Which means I now cannot make the changeover time of 5 pm. Also, it has come to my attention that the park that I am to do the changeovers at is not a very nice park. It scares me, there are gay peoples having sex in the toilet blocks at the park, lots of creepy people and it's off the highway, isolated and dark with no lighting. A severed head was found in the park a couple of years ago.
I'm afraid to be there after dark and do not want to expose our daughter to this. I feel frightened something may happen to us. I tried to convey this to the father of our daughter to no avail.
Child support payments from the child's father are sporadic as I am a low in income earner. I often struggle to have enough money for fuel to do changeovers (I have 3 older children to support). Our older son works in the afternoons and I've got to collect him between 5 and 6 pm.
I have asked her dad to collect her from my place, however, her father has refused to collect for his visitation because I can't make it by 5 pm to the changeover point and says I've contravened. I now have a nasty letter from his Lawyer saying I've broken the law and that I've withheld our child (which I haven't, this is completely incorrect) and if I do it again he will be putting a contravention in place and ask that I be punished and that I have to pay his court costs.
One other thing: our daughter, being 14, wants to hang out with her friends on weekends. A couple of weeks ago she was invited to a party when it was the weekend she was meant to go to her dad's. She asked her dad if she could go there instead of his place for the weekend as it was a sleepover. He absolutely objected to this and has also brought that weekend up in the letter from his Lawyer.
Questions:
Can I change the consent orders? How do I do this to reflect that I am working longer and that the park is a frightening place? That I can't always afford the drive to do changeover?
I also now have to pick up my son from his job at any time between 5-6pm when I'm meant to be doing changeovers as well. Not sure what to do at this point. He just won't negotiate. Completely refuses to acknowledge that my circumstances have changed.
At 14, it's hard to get her to go to her dad's every second weekend. I have no problem with him collecting her from school, etc. Does she just have to miss out on being with her friends or only see her friends when she's with me?
What's likely to happen if it goes to family court? I'm not withholding her at all.