Hi - I have three daughters aged 16, 14, 11.
Their mum had me removed from the home in April by varying an existing IVO to add the home address and the kids. She has used the IVO to suit herself for 6 years now. 2 weeks later she offered me two nights a fortnight with the girls at the former family home. Weird I know if I’m such a “risk”.
After getting some conditions varied I consented without admissions (again) to save my money for other battles. Order expires next June.
I have had to live 90 minutes away for several months - but have now secured a rental in the town where the kids go to school and get the keys in mid-August. I am getting things rolling with Relationships Australia and will see if the ex is up for mediation re kids. Depends which side of the bed she gets out of I think.
tempted to go back to court and vary the order again now that I’ve had significant change in circumstance now that I’m seeing kids regularly and about to move back to town - happy to have a basic order with kids on it, and separate order with everything on it for the ex, who I don’t want to see/speak to anyway. I’d like to think that a reasonable magistrate (they do exist) would see how ridiculous the situation is regarding the kids.
The eldest says she wants to live with me full time - while the other two want half/half which is fine. My question is this - if mediation doesn’t work, is it worth going the full 9 yards and fighting in court? I’ve been told orders don’t mean much when kids are aged around 14-16 and they’ll vote with their feet anyway
The place I’ve rented is 5 minutes walk to all the kids schools and I can work from home a few days a week so I’m very well set up for a 50-50 scenario (at least).
Ex will put up opposition due to child support reasons I reckon. She works full time.
We have around $2 mill of assets to split but discussing that should probably be another thread which I won’t bother with for now.
Their mum had me removed from the home in April by varying an existing IVO to add the home address and the kids. She has used the IVO to suit herself for 6 years now. 2 weeks later she offered me two nights a fortnight with the girls at the former family home. Weird I know if I’m such a “risk”.
After getting some conditions varied I consented without admissions (again) to save my money for other battles. Order expires next June.
I have had to live 90 minutes away for several months - but have now secured a rental in the town where the kids go to school and get the keys in mid-August. I am getting things rolling with Relationships Australia and will see if the ex is up for mediation re kids. Depends which side of the bed she gets out of I think.
tempted to go back to court and vary the order again now that I’ve had significant change in circumstance now that I’m seeing kids regularly and about to move back to town - happy to have a basic order with kids on it, and separate order with everything on it for the ex, who I don’t want to see/speak to anyway. I’d like to think that a reasonable magistrate (they do exist) would see how ridiculous the situation is regarding the kids.
The eldest says she wants to live with me full time - while the other two want half/half which is fine. My question is this - if mediation doesn’t work, is it worth going the full 9 yards and fighting in court? I’ve been told orders don’t mean much when kids are aged around 14-16 and they’ll vote with their feet anyway
The place I’ve rented is 5 minutes walk to all the kids schools and I can work from home a few days a week so I’m very well set up for a 50-50 scenario (at least).
Ex will put up opposition due to child support reasons I reckon. She works full time.
We have around $2 mill of assets to split but discussing that should probably be another thread which I won’t bother with for now.