Well, I just got an email from her telling me the oldest two can spend time with me “in accordance with their wishes” which is 85-100%, but still only every second weekend for the youngest which is about the only person/thing she can control. It’s a big step in the right direction towards getting this mess sorted out. Moved into a nice rental today. The oldest two will be with me after they finish school in half an hour. I’m very happy.