I have three children, twins aged 5 and a 2 years old. We have court consent orders in place with shared care arrangements that isn't always adhered to. Nothing major, just my ex is always using me as his baby sitter when he has a new partner at home who is capable as well. It's getting consistent as the new partner obviously doesn't want to look after the children when he has work commitments.
While I would rather them be with me anyway, I am a currently out of work teacher and on a very tight budget, having to borrow from family to get by weekly. I recently asked my ex to compensate me with extra money and or even vouchers for groceries as all the extra time I am taking the children is not covered by the assessed child support.
He refused and also said he simply won't be picking up the children for Easter as planned and scheduled as he is going to Thailand to get married. Other than obvious emotional blackmail and harassment I cop from him and his new partner, I need to be working and there has not been suitable jobs locally.
I also have a newly formed relationship with a man who has relocated to Sydney and we would like very much to explore our relationship on a deeper level and that is at present impossible. He refuses to give permission for me to relocate and has ignored invitations for mediation. He is also a teacher so would be very feasible for him to have extended visits with the children during school holidays.
I have recently been told I would have no chance at the family court giving me permission to leave with the children going through all the right channels. However, I was advised to simply not limit my options with employment opportunities and apply elsewhere and pack up and go and let my ex initiate court proceedings. Of course, this is not my preferred option, but is seeming like it might be the only way I can defend my reasons for leaving.
He is impossible to co-parent with and as he left me once for 10 months when the twins were tiny babies and then again while just pregnant with our two-year-old, any visits he has had with the extremely young children and unable to speak or have opinions for themselves, has been secretive and totally against all suggestions of routines I have given.
Even a communication book in the children's bag back and forth was used to abuse me and worked against me somewhat as he was doing total opposite things as he said. It's all a game to him.
Please, any help from anyone in this situation or from a lawyer about how the courts would really react if I left without permission would be helpful for me. I don't want it to be this way but it looks as though the power and control he still has over me is being enforced by the law, anyway.
Also, I obviously know it wouldn't look good for me to do it, but would I have a case to argue? I was left with options and my freedom and right of movement has been controlled by his unwillingness to mediate and negotiate future terms?
Thank you
While I would rather them be with me anyway, I am a currently out of work teacher and on a very tight budget, having to borrow from family to get by weekly. I recently asked my ex to compensate me with extra money and or even vouchers for groceries as all the extra time I am taking the children is not covered by the assessed child support.
He refused and also said he simply won't be picking up the children for Easter as planned and scheduled as he is going to Thailand to get married. Other than obvious emotional blackmail and harassment I cop from him and his new partner, I need to be working and there has not been suitable jobs locally.
I also have a newly formed relationship with a man who has relocated to Sydney and we would like very much to explore our relationship on a deeper level and that is at present impossible. He refuses to give permission for me to relocate and has ignored invitations for mediation. He is also a teacher so would be very feasible for him to have extended visits with the children during school holidays.
I have recently been told I would have no chance at the family court giving me permission to leave with the children going through all the right channels. However, I was advised to simply not limit my options with employment opportunities and apply elsewhere and pack up and go and let my ex initiate court proceedings. Of course, this is not my preferred option, but is seeming like it might be the only way I can defend my reasons for leaving.
He is impossible to co-parent with and as he left me once for 10 months when the twins were tiny babies and then again while just pregnant with our two-year-old, any visits he has had with the extremely young children and unable to speak or have opinions for themselves, has been secretive and totally against all suggestions of routines I have given.
Even a communication book in the children's bag back and forth was used to abuse me and worked against me somewhat as he was doing total opposite things as he said. It's all a game to him.
Please, any help from anyone in this situation or from a lawyer about how the courts would really react if I left without permission would be helpful for me. I don't want it to be this way but it looks as though the power and control he still has over me is being enforced by the law, anyway.
Also, I obviously know it wouldn't look good for me to do it, but would I have a case to argue? I was left with options and my freedom and right of movement has been controlled by his unwillingness to mediate and negotiate future terms?
Thank you