I have been the primary carer for my two children (now aged 13 and 10) since May 2009. My ex-husband moved from our area to about 45 minutes away at the end of 2010 and resides there with his new wife and child. We've been doing 50-50 on the travel arrangements - usually, he has the children at his home every second weekend. Now he has announced that he has bought a new house on the Mid-North Coast and starts a new job there at the beginning of January. He has requested to become the primary carer for the children and move them there. But they have spent their lives here and their community and friends are here. I'm not sure that relocating is the best thing for them at all. Plus of course, I'm not there either. My ex said that if I do not agree that it's time that the children live with him then he will take it to family court for custody of children. In the meantime, he does not want to see them any less than he does now and he said we will need to share the travel load on alternate weekends. This means a 4-hour trip each way. Once again, I am not sure this is best for them. They already miss a lot of events (birthday parties and such) on the weekends they are with their Dad, but now it will be more so. We are already in the Mediation process through relationships Australia to sort out a new parenting plan, as the old one has not been revised since 2009. My query relates to the distance... What is reasonable to expect the children to travel on alternate weekends? Is there a set distance at which the travel becomes unreasonable? I was going to suggest once a month visits and perhaps more time in the holidays to compensate, but so far this has not been well received.