VIC Custody of Children and Visits - Difficult Ex

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Ecrutchy

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My children want to spend time with me as I do with them, but I don't see them because their mother gives them the option so when it comes down to it they decide that they don't want to. How do I go about having my kids every second weekend like I am entitled to (custody of children)?
 

AllForHer

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Are there any orders or parenting plans currently in place? Have you attended family dispute resolution?
 
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Ecrutchy

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Are there any orders or parenting plans currently in place? Have you attended family dispute resolution?

We'd did a couple of years ago but a lot of things have changed since then. I just need a court order to say that I'm having the kids on my weekends.
 

Ecrutchy

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We'd did a couple of years ago but a lot of things have changed since then. I just need a court order to say that I'm having the kids on my weekends.
She just doesn't want me to have them and she makes me look like the bad guy because the kids say they don't want to come. Apparently I'm not putting in enough effort. It shouldn't take effort for me to see my kids!
 

AllForHer

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A family consultant - the expert witnesses used to assess family dynamics for court proceedings - would give negative feedback on a parent who gives kids a choice about whether or not they see the other parent. Kids below the age of about 12 shouldn't be given a choice because they're not capable of deciding for themselves what's in their best interests, and it's a parent's duty to actively encourage the kids to spend time with the other parent.

You'll need to organise a family dispute resolution conference with the other party to try and reach agreement about care arrangements for the kids. This is a mandatory pre-procedure step - if you can't reach agreement, you'll be given a s60i certificate enabling you to file an initiating application with the court.

Remember, previous orders have effect until the kids turn 18, and different rules may apply dependent on the nature of the orders already in place. Are they parenting orders made after a trial at court; consent orders made by agreement of both parties and formalised by the court; or a parenting plan?
 

Ecrutchy

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A family consultant - the expert witnesses used to assess family dynamics for court proceedings - would give negative feedback on a parent who gives kids a choice about whether or not they see the other parent. Kids below the age of about 12 shouldn't be given a choice because they're not capable of deciding for themselves what's in their best interests, and it's a parent's duty to actively encourage the kids to spend time with the other parent.

You'll need to organise a family dispute resolution conference with the other party to try and reach agreement about care arrangements for the kids. This is a mandatory pre-procedure step - if you can't reach agreement, you'll be given a s60i certificate enabling you to file an initiating application with the court.

Remember, previous orders have effect until the kids turn 18, and different rules may apply dependent on the nature of the orders already in place. Are they parenting orders made after a trial at court; consent orders made by agreement of both parties and formalised by the court; or a parenting plan?
Thank you for your help!! This is what I need to do and I will.