My children are 16 and 13 their father lives 3 hours drive away. Does the kids have to go and visit him? He pays child support maintenance but wants them to miss their sport to see him on a weekend. What access do I have to give him to the kids? Their is no formal agreement in place for custody of children and the kids don't want to go. He never comes down to visit them and does not help out financially with anything outside of maintenance. I'm on a low income and I am finding it very difficult to stay on top of things.