Hi all,
I'm just looking for a bit of help. I'm a little lost by it all at the moment.
My wife is currently away with the Air Force and 2 months into her trip she has decided she isn't happy in the marriage. No matter how much I tried she would not make time for us to repair the marriage. A few weeks pass and she contacts me wanting to now reconcile the marriage. We talk every day for a week or so and then she tells me about her affair with a married woman.
The following week I still spoke to her everyday and supported her through everything. She would constantly change her mind between saving the marriage and then saying we can't because of what she has done. She purchased my flights to NZ so we could talk face to face.
A few days later, she breaks down completely so I tell her I will step back and asked her to get proper help. That was the last time I heard her voice. She then cancelled my flights to NZ, sent emails outlining everything I have ever done wrong in the relationship, asked for a separation via text message and then after a few more weeks of my sitting in limbo not knowing what was going on, she has decided to cancel my half of the honeymoon but is still going to go by herself.
Then I receive a message stating she is not even interested in saving the marriage at all so I have now decided I can't do this game anymore and I am moving out before she gets home. I have text messages with her stating what furniture she wants left and what I can take.
I am trying to do the right thing by her because that is just my nature, but I am finding it difficult due to her dictating what is happening while I am not even be involved. All of this has been done via text message because she is claiming there are reasons she cannot talk to me but they are unfounded and not relevant to our current situation.
Any help would be greatly appreciated, as you can imagine I am a little lost
I'm just looking for a bit of help. I'm a little lost by it all at the moment.
My wife is currently away with the Air Force and 2 months into her trip she has decided she isn't happy in the marriage. No matter how much I tried she would not make time for us to repair the marriage. A few weeks pass and she contacts me wanting to now reconcile the marriage. We talk every day for a week or so and then she tells me about her affair with a married woman.
The following week I still spoke to her everyday and supported her through everything. She would constantly change her mind between saving the marriage and then saying we can't because of what she has done. She purchased my flights to NZ so we could talk face to face.
A few days later, she breaks down completely so I tell her I will step back and asked her to get proper help. That was the last time I heard her voice. She then cancelled my flights to NZ, sent emails outlining everything I have ever done wrong in the relationship, asked for a separation via text message and then after a few more weeks of my sitting in limbo not knowing what was going on, she has decided to cancel my half of the honeymoon but is still going to go by herself.
Then I receive a message stating she is not even interested in saving the marriage at all so I have now decided I can't do this game anymore and I am moving out before she gets home. I have text messages with her stating what furniture she wants left and what I can take.
I am trying to do the right thing by her because that is just my nature, but I am finding it difficult due to her dictating what is happening while I am not even be involved. All of this has been done via text message because she is claiming there are reasons she cannot talk to me but they are unfounded and not relevant to our current situation.
Any help would be greatly appreciated, as you can imagine I am a little lost