My husband moved out nearly 6 months ago leaving me with our two children aged 3.5 months and 2.5yrs (at the time). During the last 6 months all of the parenting responsibility was mine and the children stayed with me. Their dad still saw them but was not involved in their day-to-day care. Given I have been on maternity leave he was still financially supporting us. I attempted to discuss a parenting arrangement to share the load but there has been an unwillingness to discuss. At best he would like it to be ad hoc and when convenient for him. He is also a shift worker.
With separation I would like to move interstate with the kids to be close to my family and have a support network. I have no family support nearby although their dad's family is around.
Given his shift work, at best it is possible for him to see the kids 3 days in 10 and my son is still breastfed so visits need to work around feeds.
Their dad is also living in a very small 1 bedroom loft unit that isn't appropriate for children to stay (there is a cast iron spiral staircase to get upstairs to the bedroom area and he would need to sleep all of them in the space). He refuses to move to a more appropriate location.
We will never reach an agreement for me to move away.
How likely would it be for the kids to be allowed to live with me and for me to move interstate? Is my need for support considered? Would the court consider he just left me and the kids for 6 months and hasn't participated in the parenting responsibility? Is the young age of my children considered in their ability to truly bond with me (especially my now 9 month old son who is still breastfed). I know without a mutual agreement it would need to go to court. How long would something like this take to be heard and then decided on? Any advice would be appreciated.
With separation I would like to move interstate with the kids to be close to my family and have a support network. I have no family support nearby although their dad's family is around.
Given his shift work, at best it is possible for him to see the kids 3 days in 10 and my son is still breastfed so visits need to work around feeds.
Their dad is also living in a very small 1 bedroom loft unit that isn't appropriate for children to stay (there is a cast iron spiral staircase to get upstairs to the bedroom area and he would need to sleep all of them in the space). He refuses to move to a more appropriate location.
We will never reach an agreement for me to move away.
How likely would it be for the kids to be allowed to live with me and for me to move interstate? Is my need for support considered? Would the court consider he just left me and the kids for 6 months and hasn't participated in the parenting responsibility? Is the young age of my children considered in their ability to truly bond with me (especially my now 9 month old son who is still breastfed). I know without a mutual agreement it would need to go to court. How long would something like this take to be heard and then decided on? Any advice would be appreciated.