Hi. Need some advice. Long story short (ish). Was with ex until child was 8 month old. Me and her went on a holiday to see my mother for 2 weeks 1000kms away. While away ex told me he didn't want us to return and the relationship was over. Did not protest to us living so far away from him (history of mild DV).
For the first 12 months ex saw daughter every 2- 4 months (with two 4 month gaps). I arranged skype 2-3 times a week for her to see him, which i had to facilitate heavily, with me sitting in front of camera engaging with her for up to an hour.
Ex was welcome to stay on my mother's property for his visits. Ex became intimidating while visiting and staying with me and my mother. Emailed ex and said i was no longer comfortable sitting in front camera for skype anymore, i said nothing about stopping visitation.
Got legal letter demanding i drive child for 2 hours and leave her with him in a hotel for 2 nights and 3 days. She was 20 months old and had never been apart from me. I refused. Legal battle ensued.
Ex did not see child for 12 months (not because i stopped him but because he refused to sign parenting plan etc etc). During this time ex moved from Sydney to Bundaberg (nth QLD) without telling me.
Ex started seeing child for supervised visits last Sept (2016). Saw her 4 times for 4 fortnights, then went to a first Saturday of every month for 3 hours 3 times and then whole day once a month- he has since completed 2 of these whole day visits, however managing to have a gap of 6 weeks once and a gap of 7 weeks once. This was even after i told him how the longer gaps stressed her and she would headbutt walls etc for 2 weeks after visit.
Now i get interim orders suddenly from him. For the next 2 months he wants her from 9am - 4pm on friday and Saturday of first weekend of every month locally (30kms away). Then one overnight locally, then it jumps to me driving her 2 hours up the coast (still for 9am 4pm- doesn't account for driving time either way), for an overnight once a month. This goes for a couple of months culminating in him getting her for one whole week in December which involves me driving her to Brisbane airport (3 hours away) and picking her up from there at the end of the visit.
I'm just wondering what can happen in this kind of case.
Will the court decide it is appropriate for a 3 year old to travel such distance? Especially when he has been travelling here to see her so far?
Also he moved from Sydney to Bundaberg, if he was still living in Sydney he would fly to a local airport (60kms away, or even closer) and could visit her like that, however this move means she is being punished for his move in form of excessive car time. Also even driving her up the coast, she is not going to his home, and if she is he is adding a further 12 hours driving time to a weekend visit to get her to his house at Bundaberg.
Please help.
For the first 12 months ex saw daughter every 2- 4 months (with two 4 month gaps). I arranged skype 2-3 times a week for her to see him, which i had to facilitate heavily, with me sitting in front of camera engaging with her for up to an hour.
Ex was welcome to stay on my mother's property for his visits. Ex became intimidating while visiting and staying with me and my mother. Emailed ex and said i was no longer comfortable sitting in front camera for skype anymore, i said nothing about stopping visitation.
Got legal letter demanding i drive child for 2 hours and leave her with him in a hotel for 2 nights and 3 days. She was 20 months old and had never been apart from me. I refused. Legal battle ensued.
Ex did not see child for 12 months (not because i stopped him but because he refused to sign parenting plan etc etc). During this time ex moved from Sydney to Bundaberg (nth QLD) without telling me.
Ex started seeing child for supervised visits last Sept (2016). Saw her 4 times for 4 fortnights, then went to a first Saturday of every month for 3 hours 3 times and then whole day once a month- he has since completed 2 of these whole day visits, however managing to have a gap of 6 weeks once and a gap of 7 weeks once. This was even after i told him how the longer gaps stressed her and she would headbutt walls etc for 2 weeks after visit.
Now i get interim orders suddenly from him. For the next 2 months he wants her from 9am - 4pm on friday and Saturday of first weekend of every month locally (30kms away). Then one overnight locally, then it jumps to me driving her 2 hours up the coast (still for 9am 4pm- doesn't account for driving time either way), for an overnight once a month. This goes for a couple of months culminating in him getting her for one whole week in December which involves me driving her to Brisbane airport (3 hours away) and picking her up from there at the end of the visit.
I'm just wondering what can happen in this kind of case.
Will the court decide it is appropriate for a 3 year old to travel such distance? Especially when he has been travelling here to see her so far?
Also he moved from Sydney to Bundaberg, if he was still living in Sydney he would fly to a local airport (60kms away, or even closer) and could visit her like that, however this move means she is being punished for his move in form of excessive car time. Also even driving her up the coast, she is not going to his home, and if she is he is adding a further 12 hours driving time to a weekend visit to get her to his house at Bundaberg.
Please help.