Hey all, I really tried to stay away until after the DVO mention on Wednesday but no such luck.
Today we received a letter from the Paediatrition stating that the child has now been diagnosed with autistic spectrum disorder - high functioning. Now we understand that we cannot argue with a professional diagnosis. What is concerning if that the testing was carried out with only the maternal grandmother present- not the mother or father.
Also that part of the testing was a 2 hour interview with the maternal grandmother who discussed the child's developmental history. We can already prove that the mother has lied by saying the child has been diagnosed for two years. We can honestly say the child does not show any of the symptoms the grandmother has described in the meeting with the paediatrition and feel she is doing this so the mother can say that staying overnight with us is too much for the child (even though he has regularly stayed with us and grandma since he was 2 years of age).
Does anyone know if it is possible down the line to request independent testing to be carried out by the courts? Or whether this is something that will happen anyway? If the child genuinely has the illness we would all ensure the child has the best care to help with his development. We just are worried this is another trick to use against us in court.
On a another note, we received the undertaking between the maternal grandmother and the mother today. The child, herself and her mother are all mentioned on it. It states that the grandmother agrees to the undertakes on a without admission basis.
At any point where the child is mentioned, it does state that the grandmother is excepted when appearing personally before a court or tribunal, when attending an agreed conference, counselling or mediation, or when having contact with the children but only as set out in writing between the parties or in compliance with an Order of the Court.
Does this mean the mother can attend the next heating in March? Or not until the court allows contact?
We have both felt pretty down this afternoon, first the DVO and now this diagnosis. It seems the mother and maternal grandmother will stop at nothing to try and keep my partner and his family away from the child. Trying to stay positive that this wouldn't be the first time the courts have dealt with mothers like this.
Today we received a letter from the Paediatrition stating that the child has now been diagnosed with autistic spectrum disorder - high functioning. Now we understand that we cannot argue with a professional diagnosis. What is concerning if that the testing was carried out with only the maternal grandmother present- not the mother or father.
Also that part of the testing was a 2 hour interview with the maternal grandmother who discussed the child's developmental history. We can already prove that the mother has lied by saying the child has been diagnosed for two years. We can honestly say the child does not show any of the symptoms the grandmother has described in the meeting with the paediatrition and feel she is doing this so the mother can say that staying overnight with us is too much for the child (even though he has regularly stayed with us and grandma since he was 2 years of age).
Does anyone know if it is possible down the line to request independent testing to be carried out by the courts? Or whether this is something that will happen anyway? If the child genuinely has the illness we would all ensure the child has the best care to help with his development. We just are worried this is another trick to use against us in court.
On a another note, we received the undertaking between the maternal grandmother and the mother today. The child, herself and her mother are all mentioned on it. It states that the grandmother agrees to the undertakes on a without admission basis.
At any point where the child is mentioned, it does state that the grandmother is excepted when appearing personally before a court or tribunal, when attending an agreed conference, counselling or mediation, or when having contact with the children but only as set out in writing between the parties or in compliance with an Order of the Court.
Does this mean the mother can attend the next heating in March? Or not until the court allows contact?
We have both felt pretty down this afternoon, first the DVO and now this diagnosis. It seems the mother and maternal grandmother will stop at nothing to try and keep my partner and his family away from the child. Trying to stay positive that this wouldn't be the first time the courts have dealt with mothers like this.