Hey guys, thanks for your replies. We have felt for a long time the mother has quite a severe personality disorder and is extremely volitile (no issues with depression)... We haven't raised concerns as we have no proof and don't want to look like we are as bad as the mother by bad mouthing her. But now we are wondering if her records would prove she has been treated for some kind of a personality disorder. To be honest, the mother's own words have been quoted throughout the report (nothing from my partner has been quoted as such) and I feel the reporter may be highlighting how the mother's views and comments seem unusual.
We are not saying that the mother should loose time with the child, but feel family counselling for example could help benefit the child and her relationship. She gets the child in trouble at changeover for being upset at leaving his dad, the child has made comments that he hates his mum and hates her house (yes he is only 4 but we feel uneasy that a child so young would be making comments like this when he spends more time with her than us). And if the new specialist reports are a true representation of the child in her care then he appears to be closing himself off when around the mother/her family and not communicating.
But as this first report has shown, the child is very talkative and confident when around the father. If these aren't concerns that would be taken friendly by the courts we don't want to say anything that would be viewed negatively against my partner.
In regards to the court order to stop the mother from denigrating the father or the paternal grandmother, we think this is a great idea. The paternal grandmother was notified today that the mother has contacted the head office of our hospital that is based in Melbourne by letter, informing them of the undertaking and temporary protection order (hasn't left her name but no one else would have access to this paperwork).
Stating an undertaking is as binding as a court order etc (we obviously know this not to be true but others within the company would not be aware). We plan to take this paperwork with us to the hearing on Friday and ask for an order to stop the mother from bad mouthing my partner and paternal grandmother to employers/specialists etc.
Out of curiosity, does anyone know how the court would view a mother driving unlicenced? At changeover we noticed the mother for the first time was displaying a red P plate on her car (means you are in your first year of having your licence). The mother has been driving with the child since birth and my partner has had to stop her from driving on oxycontin with the child in the past. Just picking brains here.
We are not saying that the mother should loose time with the child, but feel family counselling for example could help benefit the child and her relationship. She gets the child in trouble at changeover for being upset at leaving his dad, the child has made comments that he hates his mum and hates her house (yes he is only 4 but we feel uneasy that a child so young would be making comments like this when he spends more time with her than us). And if the new specialist reports are a true representation of the child in her care then he appears to be closing himself off when around the mother/her family and not communicating.
But as this first report has shown, the child is very talkative and confident when around the father. If these aren't concerns that would be taken friendly by the courts we don't want to say anything that would be viewed negatively against my partner.
In regards to the court order to stop the mother from denigrating the father or the paternal grandmother, we think this is a great idea. The paternal grandmother was notified today that the mother has contacted the head office of our hospital that is based in Melbourne by letter, informing them of the undertaking and temporary protection order (hasn't left her name but no one else would have access to this paperwork).
Stating an undertaking is as binding as a court order etc (we obviously know this not to be true but others within the company would not be aware). We plan to take this paperwork with us to the hearing on Friday and ask for an order to stop the mother from bad mouthing my partner and paternal grandmother to employers/specialists etc.
Out of curiosity, does anyone know how the court would view a mother driving unlicenced? At changeover we noticed the mother for the first time was displaying a red P plate on her car (means you are in your first year of having your licence). The mother has been driving with the child since birth and my partner has had to stop her from driving on oxycontin with the child in the past. Just picking brains here.