Hi all, I'm currently seeking a divorce from my husband and would really appreciate some advice on an appropriate property settlement. Here's the context, I'll try to keep it short but apologies if I ramble! Married 24 years ago, couple years later I had the first bub. I went back to uni to continue studying and he looked after her, while also doing part-time work at points, while his parent's would mind her. This dynamic continued for quite a few years, with me graduating uni four years later, and getting a job as librarian. The job was low paying but I worked full time and he stayed home. The next year we got a mortgage and moved into house, so we were no longer renting. Our daughter started school that year, two years later I moved to slightly better job. That year, as my partners father had died and his mother was no longer able to live on her own (and we could not afford ongoing care in a facility, plus all three of us would much prefer her to have a more autonomous life) we decided to build a granny flat in our very large back-yard for her to live in. We built it ourselves. Two years later I had bub number 2, and took off 6 months maternity leave, and went back to work. After a year and a half back, I switched to my current workplace, where I've been working for 10 years. At this point, as we needed more money, and my first daughter was old enough to look after her brother on her own (as well as with the nanna in the granny flat, often), my partner started part-time work as a librarian (without qualifications). He didn't earn much, but the additional $350 a week was needed. He still maintained primary care of the children, in that he got them both off to school (the older high school, younger primary school) and handled all of that stuff, as well as the household bills etc and all of that, but the house was often very untidy, and he would be lazy to clean up the dishes often. But, as he is the only parent that drives, he did do the most of all of those tasks, like shopping and picking them up etc. But he also didn't bring in anywhere near as much financially. The next year, my partner's mother had a massive stroke, which was extremely emotionally, financially and time draining. After six months of hospitalization, she went into rehab for three months, and then into a high care facility for the next 5 years. When we realized we would need to put her into care, my partner was very adamant about finding a high quality place, as his father had died in a nursing home due to negligence. As this was going to be expensive, he got a job as a relatively low level part-time public servant position at my work, which paid more than his last job. Obviously, this was a very tumultuous time, and a very expensive time, our marriage began to deteriorate, and I decided to move out into the granny flat for a few nights a week (also because I could smoke out there, not in the main house) and eventually this turned into a permanent arrangement, and I've been living out here for the past 8 years. There have been other marital issues, of course, but when I began demanding that he fix things between us at the beginning of this year, nothing really changed at all. So I've told him I want a divorce. Now, I want to buy him out of the family house and have him move somewhere else, while I rent out the granny flat to help pay off the remaining mortgage. And I've got him to agree that if he want's to keep assets that are 'his' ie: the cars, he'll have to pay half of their value. I've also got him to agree to 50% of our savings (of about 11k). Also, our son who is now 12, has voiced that he will want to live at his dad's at least half of the time, even though he won't be in the family home... and potentially not close to his school. But still, will I have to pay child support to my partner, if my son is there 50% of the time? Also, he's mentioned ' spousal maintenance' but surely that isn't neccessary. He earns about 22-25k a year in his current job, I earn about 68k, but I've actually studied and worked hard at a career. Basically, what type of division of everything would I be looking at? I don't really know... But neither of us particularly want to have to get lawyers involved as its too out of our price range, particularly for him. Thanks for any help or insights you could possibly give!