Hi, my ex husband has had to pay extra child support as he wasn't having the children as previously noted. He is now demanding that the kids will go to his place every second Friday and Saturday night whether he is working or not. The problem I am faced with is my oldest child is 12 and is in high school. She doesn't like his partner and her relationship with her father is very distant. She no longer wishes to go up as much as what he is requesting and would like to be able to make her own mind up if she wishes to go or not. My 10 year old son does want to go but not every second week end. Their father refuses to listen to what their wishes are and accuses me of not letting the kids come up. All I want to do is be an advocate for my children and their wishes are heard. I have tried to go to mediation but he refused to attend. I can't afford a lawyer and am unsure on how to handle this so both parties have a fair hearing. He is a police officer and has the attitude what he says goes because he is the adult and father and they don't have a say. Can you please help me?