There is a long story behind this and I’m happy to answer questions for context, but my questions are relating to my husband and father of our two kids, who has this year discovered via court-ordered DNA that he has fathered a child from a one night stand that predates our relationship.
Never met the child, haven't seen mother since conception, she is hostile and has done some crazy and criminal things in the process of all this and they basically can't be contacted other than via lawyers.
So my questions are:
- We found out today from Child Support Agency, 2 months after court, that the judge ordered to backdate Child Support payments to 2017. The Child Support application was only submitted this year, DNA testing only happened in July this year and the court was finalised in September this year. How can he do that?
- We have lawyers. Should they have let my husband know about this prior to now? We have never received a copy of the court order (husband didn't attend; the lawyer did on his behalf).
- Can this decision be appealed?
- Does the fact that my husband is the sole income earner for our family and we have established a life where we have kids, debts and rent etc and in doing so did not take into consideration another child to support, as he only just found this out this year and confirmed in September (the child is 6) count as a special circumstance when it comes to a COA?
i.e as opposed to a couple that split and he then remarries, new kids etc and he’s known about his obligation to support another child the whole time so should have budgeted for that
- For example, the self-support amount is ~$24k, our rent alone that he pays in full is ~$43k per annum, childcare is about $17k p.a etc let alone debts! And we don't live in a lavish house, we just live in Sydney with 4 of us in a 2-bed semi with a mould problem! We need to move and if anything, we’re looking at paying more rent because of Sydney. (Not a question, just background info)
- On top of the amount they assessed him as having to pay, they now also are adding this backdated amount which he can’t pay in full as we don’t have it, so they said they would add it onto his normal payments, doubling them. Surely something can be reassessed here - if he can’t afford the payments as is, how can he afford double that?
- Has anyone used one of the companies that assist parents with completing COAs and dealing with CSA (eg My Child Support)? Yay or nay?
There is no problem paying child support in general for the child, no one has issues with that, but to backdate it prior to the point where this was even brought up or paternity was ever confirmed seems wrong and to not be able to take the situation into account properly financially seems wrong?
The mother has declared $0 income (we don't know her from a bar of soap so who knows how true that is) but she does have other child/ren from other relationships under the age of 18 (if any of that matters).
Thanks in advance!
Never met the child, haven't seen mother since conception, she is hostile and has done some crazy and criminal things in the process of all this and they basically can't be contacted other than via lawyers.
So my questions are:
- We found out today from Child Support Agency, 2 months after court, that the judge ordered to backdate Child Support payments to 2017. The Child Support application was only submitted this year, DNA testing only happened in July this year and the court was finalised in September this year. How can he do that?
- We have lawyers. Should they have let my husband know about this prior to now? We have never received a copy of the court order (husband didn't attend; the lawyer did on his behalf).
- Can this decision be appealed?
- Does the fact that my husband is the sole income earner for our family and we have established a life where we have kids, debts and rent etc and in doing so did not take into consideration another child to support, as he only just found this out this year and confirmed in September (the child is 6) count as a special circumstance when it comes to a COA?
i.e as opposed to a couple that split and he then remarries, new kids etc and he’s known about his obligation to support another child the whole time so should have budgeted for that
- For example, the self-support amount is ~$24k, our rent alone that he pays in full is ~$43k per annum, childcare is about $17k p.a etc let alone debts! And we don't live in a lavish house, we just live in Sydney with 4 of us in a 2-bed semi with a mould problem! We need to move and if anything, we’re looking at paying more rent because of Sydney. (Not a question, just background info)
- On top of the amount they assessed him as having to pay, they now also are adding this backdated amount which he can’t pay in full as we don’t have it, so they said they would add it onto his normal payments, doubling them. Surely something can be reassessed here - if he can’t afford the payments as is, how can he afford double that?
- Has anyone used one of the companies that assist parents with completing COAs and dealing with CSA (eg My Child Support)? Yay or nay?
There is no problem paying child support in general for the child, no one has issues with that, but to backdate it prior to the point where this was even brought up or paternity was ever confirmed seems wrong and to not be able to take the situation into account properly financially seems wrong?
The mother has declared $0 income (we don't know her from a bar of soap so who knows how true that is) but she does have other child/ren from other relationships under the age of 18 (if any of that matters).
Thanks in advance!