Sammy, you continue to twist my comments or take them out of context to make your point.
I said $600 is pissy in light of what it costs per month to bring up 2 children. I never said Mark is pissy. I did not abuse him for paying what he is assessed as needing to pay. I told him he is delusional if he thinks $600 plus FTB per month covers the cost of raising 2 children. I actually said he is deluded but that is past tense so thank you Sammy for using the right tense there.
I know CSA makes an assessment and that is legally what should be paid. So, I agree he is making the correct payment if he is paying the assessed amount. I’m not arguing with Mark or myself, seems I’m only arguing with you Sammy over what I supposedly said. Reread my comment Sammy, I said he is deluded (but should have said delusional) if he thinks $600 plus FTB per month covers the cost of raising 2 children.
As for deadbeat dads, I called my ex a deadbeat dad, not Mark. Read it in context Sammy…
“there's $1.6 billion in outstanding payments, logged by the
CSA, owed overwhelmingly by fathers. That doesn't include private arrangements or deadbeat dads like my ex…”
So clearly I wasn’t referring to Mark at all as he made it clear he pays the assessed CS amount.
Further on the name calling, you are the one that called me a SEXIST PIG Sammy because I said “Like most fathers that hate paying CS,”….well Mark made the comment himself that his ex should be saving from the CS and FTB for a rainy day to pay things like the child’s medical bills. But just prior to that he told us that “we had a private
agreement where she sent me receipts at the end of the month for the expenses of the two kids and I paid half
. Then on a few occasions, I had some unforeseen expenses and couldn't pay.”
So Mark’s ex should be saving for the rainy day expenses of their child’s medical bills but Mark clearly hadn’t been saving for a rainy day for his unforeseen expenses and instead chose to not pay his half of the expenses for the two children (back when they had their private agreement).
I can’t see where Mark said his ex was providing eftpos slips for the paid doctors’ visits. He only mentioned receipts. I don’t think Mark was disputing whether the child went to a medical appointment or not, only whether he should pay half now that he pays assessed CS each month. Maybe you owe Mark’s ex an apology Sammy for implying that she could be trying to pass off medical visit receipts that were hers for reimbursement of ½ by Mark. Because your ex did it afterall.
Anyway Mark, Sammy usually doesn’t hold back on his advice – I’ve noticed he generally is very forthright and calls a spade a spade. Sammy’s opinion is that I owe you an apology. I apologise if you, like Sammy, felt that I attacked you. I hope you feel you received some constructive advice regarding your 3 year old. I’m also the type that calls a spade a spade and I strongly feel that you need to put more effort into seeing your kids. Your relationship with them will only be as strong as what you give it. There is no magic that will make your 3yo happy to leave the one constant figure in his life to go and spend a week with you, without some or most likely a lot of, distress. There are a lot of parents on here that have long distance relationships with their kids. Yours are so young right now so it’s up to you to put the effort in. You will reap what you sow. When they are a bit older, you’ll be able to have them come to you as well.
