I have a female friend who I’m not in a relationship with, but it is sexual. This last week my mother died and we were not getting on well, I sent her many text messages over the 4 days (70, 30, 20, 10 approx). She did respond to some of them, we also caught up in person and doesn't want to see me anymore so went to police and have been charged with stalking and harassment. Can I downgrade it to AVO? Or does the fact that she did text back and we did catch up count? The majority of texts were not abusive, more "clingy” as per charge sheet.